Post Date December, 03 2023
Gender marriage: experts tell you how to cope with the "itch" in marriage
It is said that marriage has a seven-year itch. For men, 30-35; 45--50; In the three age groups of 60 to 65, men are most likely to spill the itch of marriage. Once such men have their hearts spilled, it is really chopping and disorderly; Women can often fight men when they should, but they are always reluctant to let go.
Men are not bad, women do not love ". Different people have different understandings. The word" bad "is very meaningful. It often makes women seduce, that is, hate and love, hate his" bad ", love his" bad ", all say that marriage has a seven-year itch. A survey of psychology at Princeton University in the United States shows that the itch of marriage does not depend on the age of marriage, but appears in the natural growth age of people, For men: 30-35; 45--50; In the three age groups of 60 to 65, men are most likely to spill the itch of marriage. Once such men have their hearts spilled, it is really chopping and disorderly; Women can often fight men when they should, but they are always reluctant to let go.
Don't despise anyone, and don't laugh at anyone. It's your turn to let go with him easily. In fact, it's better not to be unwilling or entangle with him. Now that you use this brain, it's better to play the game of winning the game. If you let go easily, it only means that his position in your heart is too vague. Then why should you care about his deluge of flirtatiousness, and if you let go with a high attitude, it's just a hypocrite who is talking about the bystander. Men hate the entanglement of women, On the other hand, if a woman comes out of the wall, can a man take it calmly and fulfill others with dignity? Self-ridicule, I can't wait to put that man in the abyss. People are like this: it is easy to say others, but it is often my turn to turn the gun and self-protection is very strong, but it is understandable.
"It's a blessing in disguise". The victory here is a compromise strategy. It applies to both men and women. It neither connives nor stifles. If you change your mind, everyone will be happy. The world is at peace. If you don't know how deep it is, you can only take the blame.
Rules of the game (1) Build a plank road in the open, and go through the dark
No matter whether men or women have "tickles" in their hearts when their "flower hearts" are in full bloom, their dissociative appearance and seemingly meticulous heart will have some disadvantages compared with the past. Take the man's "itch" for example: the wife found that her husband was unusually "greasy" and his behavior was strange, so she connected to the phone and "whined", not to mention those inferior reasons, such as overtime and entertainment.
At this time, women don't need to panic. That's just a sign of his "itch". "Bad" men have a slightly higher EQ, and their IQ is often lower than others. Those disdainful tricks and tricks are thought to be impeccable, but they are full of holes in their own women's eyes. For example, the lover's telephone number is often an alternative name in the phone book of his mobile phone. Wives are very sensitive, and it is not difficult to find small tricks; His reason for working overtime is even more convincing. You think it is beyond the common sense, and the flaw cannot be overcome; In fact, this layer of window paper is poor. If you fight with it with real bullets, he will push the boat along the river, correct the mistake, and fall into his trap, but you will not end up well.
The most effective way to stay in this state is to leave him room for manoeuvre and make him feel that you are not an ordinary person. After a few moves, he will naturally retreat.
Rules of the game (2) Not hot or cold, relaxed and moderate
As the saying goes, "playing the pole is not a trade.". This sounds a little vulgar, but in fact, couples often have this subtle feeling, whether male to female or female to male, which is too active, too emotional, too affectionate, and the result is contrary to expectations. People's mentality is sometimes strange, especially when men and women have an extramarital affair, when they return home, the other party is neither cold nor hot. In fact, it is not surprising to think about it carefully, because at this time he or she is completely abnormal marital mentality, Is it normal to be absent-minded?
Women have suffered from the word "infatuation" all their life. Once they are in love with you, they always sit and daydream, and then empty their feelings without reservation. Blind infatuation is begging. Men's physiological genes and psychological base determine that their feelings are staged expressions. Men's feelings are often fleeting by feeling, and women's feelings are often tenacious by feeling.
So why don't women treat men's "itch" with indifference? Love and emotion need skills, not completely selfless honesty and dedication. That way, men will feel no challenge, and you can make no demands on him. Your non-response is the most powerful weapon to fight him. At this time, even if he "itches" in the eyes of other women, but when he finds that his woman really snubs him, He felt that his "bad" and "itch" were trampled down to nothing. At this time, in his view, you were more challenging than the woman he wanted to "itch". He had a lot of self-distress of "missing talent". Don't worry, he would naturally return to your original emotional relationship with him.
Rule of the game (3) Let him run a hundred meters, and he can do it easily
In such an open society, why many men have "fear of marriage"? One of the most important factors is the fear of losing freedom after marriage. Men are born with wild animals, which are suitable for stocking and cannot be kept in captivity. The captive man has no vitality. The more he is kept in captivity, the more wonderful the outside world is, the more "itchy" his heart is. The more he feels that the women around him have no novelty, and he always wants to look for fresh prey outside the city.
In marriage, women don't have to be alarmist. They should appropriately give men freedom, but not indulgence. Let him have no difference between inside and outside. Even if they want to "itch", they will have their own discretion. If they let him go a hundred meters away, he will have a psychological balance, which will inevitably measure the moral bottom line of life between husband and wife. A free-range man often has a love complex, and women will be able to control him naturally.
