Post Date December, 03 2023
My best friend is 29 years old this year. Our friendship has lasted for seven or eight years. I played together when I first came to Beijing. A few days ago, she told me that she had finally had a good time in the past few years. It all came from that she did not allow herself to fall in love with the poor after the age of 25.
I say what you say is as guilty as the poor. She is right. The poor are guilty. Then she looked at the night sky and said, "Don't you think it is difficult for young people to be poor in this society? Really, as long as they learn a little, use their brains, and work a little harder on life, they can support themselves. In this era, the person who still insists on being poor is definitely not a simple problem of poverty. It must be his personality or personality defects and problems that cause him to be poor. You don't underestimate poverty, nor do you have to take out your heart of the Virgin to love Aiwan Wu, I repeat, in this era, a poor man means that he has a big problem. "
"Especially for men, poverty determines that this person has no sense of responsibility and no connections. In other words, no connections means that he can't look at people and make friends. You must also talk to me about class, saying that a person must have the same strength to join the circle of a higher level than himself. But even if the person who bakes sweet potatoes at the door is especially good, especially good, he can make several friends willing to help him. This is a person The problem of EQ is that no friend is willing to help him. The first reason is that his EQ is low. The second reason is that everyone has a problem with his character. The third reason is that normal people have social relations. It is normal for a person to have no object. If there is no friend, you don't have to fight with me. This person has a problem. "
It suddenly occurred to me that when we were young, in our early twenties, we were looking for poor people. At that time, we felt that we were crystal clear. We loved the essence through the phenomenon and the soul through the life. Now look back, the majority of divorced people are not very happy. Because the men they married, that is, the men we loved at that time, were not only poor, but also did not want to make progress.
After reading many bloody examples around her, she risked being scolded to tell the truth and rushed to get married in love. The girl still did not want to find a boy who was too poor and not motivated. Except in these cases; You also have no pursuit of quality of life. You are very rich or your father is very rich. He is so handsome that you can not eat for three days at a glance. This person is really talented and irreplaceable. The man who is not afraid of poverty is really terrible.
Because no matter how much you love each other, you have to pay for rice. Once you get married, how can you be strong? You can't go out to work until your child is 3 years old after giving birth to a baby in the late pregnancy. And now children's things are very expensive. If you want them to live better, it's even more expensive. Beijing private kindergartens are said to have been 30 thousand months old. Of course, it is not necessary to let children go to private kindergartens, but they all hope that their children will have a better life.
I still dare not have children, because I feel that I cannot be responsible for a small life, and I am not sure whether I will be a good mother. And I'm selfish. I don't want to give up my time to take care of my children. If you don't have children, don't worry. Many of my friends are around 40 years old, and the children are also healthy and lovely.
Most of the poor men I know are very lazy. This kind of laziness is not only reflected in making money, but also at home. So if you choose a poor man, congratulations. You have a much higher probability of getting a husband who doesn't do housework at all.
Moreover, they are very sensitive. If you show your yearning for cars and houses, they will quickly judge you as a "vain woman." They will torture you with their soul, "How can I not see you are this kind of person at the beginning? Why do you want to find me if you like money so much? Look who has the money."
Of course, it's because I love you that I find you, otherwise?
But many times, the first sentence of loving you and loving you more and more in getting along with each other is not worth living in the daily necessities. You hurt my heart a little.
I have a friend who just broke up with his boyfriend of seven years. The reason is that "we went to eat a big meal on my birthday to celebrate. After the dinner, he took it for granted that he was waiting for me to pay the bill. I was very sad. He said that you asked for 500 per capita. I suggested that we eat 200 per capita and I would pay the bill. You didn't agree."
I said that it was not really a big deal. She shook her head, say "I saw at that time that after we had a baby, I wanted to go to a private hospital to have a baby. He stood aloof and watched me pay the bill. The reason was that he said he wanted to go to a public hospital to have a baby. I didn't agree. When I saw the child go to school, I wanted him to go to a better school. This is also my own bill, because he suggested to go to an ordinary school. I saw that in life, whenever I want to be a little better, it all depends on me, and he I stood beside you coldly for the reason that I told you that we could do better, but you didn't want to. My pursuit of a better life and our pursuit of a better life have become my own business. It has nothing to do with him. "
Feeling deeply, I want to say to those men who say they love you, but never work hard for your life: no girl leaves you because of vanity and love of money. If I want money, I will not follow you at all. What I'm most afraid of is that when I'm working hard for life, you stand idly by, as if the future is my own business. You are sorry not only for "love", but also for "we".
