Post Date December, 03 2023
In love, women often say that men have no sense of security. In fact, most of them think too much about themselves. Women think too much about insecurity. So why do men feel insecure? What can we do to make men more psychologically safe?
A man thinks his wife's loyalty is greater than heaven
Gaby loves social communication, but she will never compromise and compromise in her family. She longed to be on the same footing with her rich husband, and to pursue absolute freedom at home. She would also be thrilled to see a handsome man, so she had an affair with a college tutor. After being found by her husband, she "smoothed" with some small hands. Although the husband forgives her mistake, the relationship between husband and wife has buried the root of the disaster and the marital conflict has further escalated. But Gaby took one of her husband's male competitors home and made her pretend to be her sexual partner. When her husband laughed it off, she would rather pretend it. This scene was seen by the husband who was preparing to bring the breakfast into her room in the morning, and the conflict between the two people escalated again.
Warm tips: In family disputes, such women should not be too selfish, nor go to extremes, especially not compete with their lovers, because the result of the competition will often lead to a dead end in love. Once there is a small friction in the family, you should first chat with friends, or see how parents usually deal with problems, try to divert attention, and reduce the desire to control the initiative of family conflicts. Family is the world of two people. We should cherish it as if it were a treasure handed down.
Men don't want to be managed by "standardization"
Bree likes to clean up the house and is very strict with her family. She asked her family to have dinner like a meeting, and the tableware should not make any noise. Once, she and her husband were "in close contact" when suddenly V found that the sandwich on the table was about to fall off. She quickly pushed her husband away, rushed up to catch the sandwich, and then wiped the table clean, but his face was helpless.
When the doctor told her the sad news of her husband's death, her first reaction was to continue to wash the dishes, then dress properly, cry, and go out. After Bree lost her husband, the two other boyfriends met her "cleanliness standard", but they were both murderers with personality disorders. After a series of blows, Bree became sloppy and manic, and even drank heavily.
Warm tips: women with these typical problems should pay more attention to observing other people's families and try to live a normal life. It is thus recognized that not all families should be spotless, and each member should be well dressed. In contrast, families pursuing natural harmony are happier.
In addition, we need to see things from the perspective of our family, such as chatting with family members, joking and even playing. Cleanliness is hard for many men to accept, because a normal man will never have excessive requirements for cleanliness. Wives should learn to think in a different way, take more consideration of men's living habits, and avoid being overly demanding on the premise that the family is clean as a whole.
Men worry that their wives are better than themselves
Lynette is a strong woman who gave up her career after marriage and raised four children. But she will still show a tough side. Once her husband's boss came home for a meeting, Lynette joined the discussion and stole the spotlight from her husband. After her four children grew up, she returned to work again and worked in the same company with her husband, but her position was higher than her husband's. Her husband took the initiative to help her share most of the housework, but she often told her husband what to do and broke his heart.
Expert analysis: no matter how smart and strong a woman is, she should try her best to maintain the dignity of a man and not hurt her husband's confidence and self-esteem. A smart and successful woman should learn to play coquettish and show weakness in front of her husband, and even find some very simple questions that he can blurt out to ask him, so as to give men more confidence.
Warm tips: women who have a successful career should not think that whoever earns less money should do more housework. The husband does housework out of caring for his wife, so he must be more sure of such behavior. In the traditional sense, men are better at work and women are better at housework, so when a man is not good at housework, the wife must understand.
Especially in families with children, it is very rare for fathers to play with children. Like Lynette's husband, who can do housework, children also like to play with him, which is enough. You know, it's great to be a good father. It's even harder than being a chairman.
Men are tired of indecisive women
Susan belongs to the kind of woman who has no idea. She always vacillates in front of every man who sparks. She doesn't know who loves her, let alone who she loves. She often needs her precocious daughter to give her advice. Susan is a little cute, a little simple, and a little silly, but her emotional vacillation has brought pain to herself and the people who love her.
When her ex-husband asked to spend the night with her, she thought the man was unforgettable to her and accepted it, but later learned that her ex-husband just quarreled with her new girlfriend and came back to seek comfort, but she lost her beloved boyfriend. Later, when faced with the pursuit of a handsome doctor she met, she couldn't give up her relationship with her boyfriend. It can be said that Susan's lack of assertiveness made her lose her initiative in life.
(Intern editor: Chen Hao)
