Post Date April, 15 2023
The most difficult relationship in the world is not actually a business partnership, but our seemingly simple relationship as a husband and wife. Our marriage philosophy is the same, and often a marriage that lasts for decades is the most important thing we need to seriously manage.
After marriage, are you also aware of this problem? If you haven't found a better way to handle it yet, let's take a look at the following ways to get along with the editor!
Criticizing Mistakes: Start with Yourself
It is not easy to make a man calmly listen to your criticism. So we must first criticize ourselves for mistakes.
In a marital dispute, no matter how correct your opinions and ideas are, you cannot change the other person's mind. The best way is to present your opinions in a gentle manner from the side, or when blaming him, tell him that you have made similar mistakes, and then blame him again. Only then will the other party be willing to accept your advice.
Analyzing right and wrong: "5:1" praise method
Warm words can always play an unimaginable positive role between loved ones. Therefore, we suggest that both spouses encourage and praise their spouses more. Because if you use criticism and blame to improve your relationship, it can actually damage your relationship.
However, blindly praising and encouraging is also detrimental to the relationship between husband and wife, and it is still necessary to criticize one party's "mistakes and shortcomings", otherwise it will be difficult to correct them. How to criticize it? Psychologists have found that using a 5:1 praise to criticism ratio can maintain active and healthy relationships, and spouses are most receptive.
When persuading: first find a common ground
This is not to say that persuasion between couples is necessarily effective. Therefore, when persuading the other party, we must master certain skills.
It is normal for couples to have different views on some issues. How can you get your spouse to agree with your views? Psychologists have found that when couples are talking, they should not bring up their differences at the beginning, which can easily lead to vicious arguments.
Let him compromise: the method of "using softness to overcome hardness"
If you have a good understanding of men, you will find that even men who appear "feminine" in appearance still exhibit their own characteristics at critical moments.
Most men are stubborn and assertive, not good at compromise with others, and "prefer to bend over bend.". Therefore, using "hard methods" often fails to achieve the goal, sometimes complicating the problem, and even causing conflicts and disputes if not properly handled.
So generally speaking, men like women to act coquettishly, and acting coquettishly makes them feel the glory of "a big man.". Therefore, acting coquettishly can not only help you achieve your goals, but also stir up the ripples of love and the waves of affection. How can a charming and weak wife, a "big man", have the heart to hurt her and refuse to accept her demands? Only obedient obedience.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
