Post Date December, 03 2023
In terms of feelings, there is no difference between falling in love with a family member and falling in love with a single person. Therefore, his entanglement with her is the third kind of emotion outside marriage. For a variety of reasons, many people are trapped in it and cannot extricate themselves. They know that love has no end, but they are still like moths to the fire.
Many times, extramarital affairs are really intoxicating, like drugs, stimulating and exciting. When desire comes, reason runs away. Relieving extramarital love is like drug treatment. It needs enough strong willpower and strong faith to gradually dissolve the entanglement of extramarital love with reason and gradually weaken the attachment to extramarital love.
1、 Relationship transformation method
The so-called relationship transformation method is to transform the original relationship between lovers into confidants and friends, gradually weakening the attachment between each other.
1. Meet
First of all, both parties should have a firm belief and a clear attitude, and decide to end this abnormal extramarital sex and avoid meeting alone, which is really difficult to part with. The place to meet should be the place that is not easy to create ambiguity, or in public, each other should treat each other as a "buddy" or "friend". The conversation content is mainly limited to the care and greetings between friends and confidants, talk about work and study, Or in order to relax the environment, we can joke with each other, tease each other, and avoid talking about emotional topics, such as "missing". We should also pay attention not to be cold, try to maintain a relaxed and happy atmosphere, and avoid long-term collision of eyes. If we find that we can't control the situation, we should change the topic or end the conversation as soon as possible.
2. SMS or telephone contact
It is not easy to break an extramarital affair completely. Even if you can control not to meet, contact is indispensable. The frequency of SMS, qq and telephone contact should be gradually reduced. The content of SMS, qq and telephone should also be kept in the category of friends and buddies as far as possible, and gradually reduce the attachment to him. If the other party can't bear to give up, and the enthusiasm is not reduced, the best way is to be ruthless, do not reply or less reply to SMS, and set the phone to reject, Don't chat on qq, let the other party cool down.
2、 Attention-transfer method
1. Avoid loneliness
Most extramarital affairs are caused by loneliness. Feelings are lonely and hearts are lonely. At this time, there is a person of the opposite sex who can talk and care about people. Over time, extramarital affairs are inevitable. So when people are lonely, they will be flooded with emotion, and the past will be in front of them like replayed movies. How can we give up? How can I give up? In order to forget this feeling, we must avoid loneliness and keep ourselves busy. We have no time to be lonely and miss. We can exercise, read books and listen to music. But we should pay attention not to read romantic novels and love songs, avoid sadness, and keep a happy mood, knowing that life without him or her is still wonderful!
2. Expand the scope of making friends
With the emergence of extramarital affairs, both men and women will gradually alienate their former intimate friends, colleagues and friends of the opposite sex. If they decide to end the extramarital affairs, they must regain the friendship they once had, replace unhealthy love with friendship, often keep in touch with their intimate friends of the opposite sex, and have 3-5 friends of the opposite sex to communicate more and relax, but still pay attention to avoid one-to-one communication between the opposite sex, In fact, after leaving the narrow space between lovers outside the marriage, you will suddenly find how vast the outside world is.
3、 Family warmth method
Most of the people who have extramarital affairs are bored with family life, which is as plain as water. Home is a free hotel. Most of the men come home to watch TV, surf the Internet, eat and sleep. They are unwilling to communicate with the elderly, children and lovers. They are reticent. They are sometimes picky and impatient with their families. Anyway, they just have to go home. The warmth of family love is hard to show on them, There is no sense of responsibility, so it is very important to remove the warmth of extramarital love.
1. Care about family life
What is home? It is a harbor, a place for cultivation, a gas station for life, and a source of power. How important is a happy and relaxed atmosphere for each of us? If you want to go home after an extramarital affair, you have to start from caring for everyone in your family, and reflect on how long your parents, brothers and sisters have not contacted or met on the phone? How long have you not hugged, kissed, made love or communicated with your lover? How long have you not cared about your children's learning? How long have you not done housework? Take action! Try to create some relaxed and happy family atmosphere, and create opportunities to lead families to travel and take vacations, and deepen the intimacy between family members.
2. Improve the sense of responsibility
The Marriage Law clarifies the responsibilities and rights of both husband and wife, and no one can forget the rights. However, the sense of responsibility gradually fades in the trivial life. Especially if the family member is a strong person, the responsibility of the family seems to have nothing to do with him. Everything is taken care of by his wife, and there is no need to worry about it. The weakening of the sense of responsibility will inevitably lead to the indifference of family feelings. He sees himself as only responsible for paying money to his family, Nothing else. It is the lack of sense of responsibility that leads to extramarital affairs. Therefore, finding the sense of responsibility for home and love is the main driving force for emotional return.
4、 Advantages and disadvantages analysis
It is important to analyze the advantages and disadvantages of extramarital affairs. The advantages of unexposed extramarital affairs are: to enjoy the release of emotions and obtain a happy mood; Disadvantages: the loss of money, time and energy, the spiritual suffering of not being able to expose emotions in the sun, and the collision between the truth and the lies of concealing private affairs. Once the truth of the extramarital affair is exposed, only the disadvantages are: no peace at home, trust crisis, work impact, friends' eyes, family responsibilities, and so on. If you have the courage to pursue a lover and eventually get married, the advantages are: you get the real love, and finally enjoy the happiness of holding hands in the sun;
Disadvantages: the education of children in remarried families, the guilt of the previous marriage, the reestablishment of social trust, and the economic pressure if the income is not high. From the perspective of pros and cons, it is wise to remove the tangle of extramarital affairs as soon as possible.
Hurry up! Infatuated men and women trapped in extramarital affairs! The real happiness is holding hands in the sun!
