Post Date December, 03 2023
What is marriage? Marriage is marriage. Marriage needs to be maintained, but it depends on what kind of marriage it is. Some emotions are the most common in marriage, and some things can be avoided in marriage. If you are interested, look at the following rules.
One's love is always romantic, while one's love is always mediocre.
In the eyes of many people, love and romance are almost the same two words. Looking around, almost all the lovers around have more dazzling romantic experiences than Qiong Yao's novels. It seems that everyone's love has something special. Some have strange acquaintance experience, some have tortuous pursuit process, and some are immersed in the happiness of flowers, candlelight dinner, concerts and outings. But almost everyone thinks their love is mediocre. Even those envied couples don't think they have anything special. This is really a strange thing. In fact, love is originally a very plain thing, with some romantic highlights, but more are plain things. What you see is always the bright spot in other people's life, and what you experience is always the plain in your own life. In fact, what is romantic and non-romantic? The pursuit of happiness is the essence of love.
Second, first love is beautiful, but it is difficult to have a happy ending.
In thousands of classic love stories, about 80% are about first love. First love is like a green apple, which emits an attractive fragrance, but it tastes unbearable sour. The first love lovers in movies and TV works can always lead an enviable happy life. However, most of the first love stories in real life end in failure.
The beauty of first love is that it reflects the yearning of an immature person for fairy tales. Like a child who thinks that riding on a broom can fly like a witch. When people fall into a strong affection for the opposite sex for the first time, they think they will personally perform a touching love fairy tale. The scenes that often appear in love stories, such as going to see the meteor shower together and meeting at the lakeside after the rain, will make people enchanted. After all, all the scenes that have abandoned the reality background are extremely beautiful. However, marriage is too realistic. With the passage of time, the background of reality transcends the illusion, and the beauty of first love is like a crystal ball broken in front of us.
First love is more like a process of narcissism. What people are really infatuated with is the shadow of their heart. The other side is just a substitute for the lover in your dream. Because the first love is particularly harsh on love, failure is a reasonable thing.
3. Before marriage, there are too few for yourself, and after marriage, there are too many for yourself.
When you want to use an awl, you can't find it in every drawer at home; When you don't need it, it comes to you inadvertently. The creator has the nature to play tricks on people, even love. When you write down your expectations of love one by one on the paper, and then eagerly hope that love will appear, love will always go around you, either not with this person, or with that person can not arouse the spark of emotion. Finding the most ideal lover in your heart is something you can't expect, so many people come together reluctantly.
If you haven't found a special lover in your life, you can live a peaceful and stable life. Unfortunately, after marriage, you always have the chance to meet the person you have been looking forward to on some occasion. Maybe it is a sentence, maybe it is a look that can ignite the heart. Sometimes you can't help wondering whether this is the fate or the devil's temptation. But in the end, this question returns to Plato's wheat ear theory. If you spend your life waiting, you can always find the best person for yourself, but can you spend your life waiting? Since you can't, cherish the ears of wheat in your hand.
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
