For humans, sexual desire is the most primitive instinct, while love is the main psychological trigger for sexual desire. Only sexual life based on love can be said to be true happiness. So, a husband's passionate love and warmth for himself, with all his heart and care, is often more important than satisfying his sexual desire. Therefore, the good or bad relationship between husband and wife is the foundation of a woman's sexual desire.
So, what are the four psychological stages of marital breakdown? Only by understanding these can we better solve problems and make the relationship between husband and wife more stable.
After entering marriage, the couple's relationship gradually enters a flat stage from the initial hot stage. Later, conflicts may arise due to various trivial matters or pressure from work and life. If conflicts are not resolved in a timely manner, they can escalate into disputes and ultimately lead to disputes between each other. Generally speaking, disputes are often manifested in external leakage, such as altercations, brawls, and destruction of objects, among parties with lower cultural levels and a bilious and bloody nature. Through mediation, it can be resolved, but then it repeats and the civil war continues. Among those with high cultural levels and mucous or depressive symptoms, it is often manifested as internal depression, seemingly not arguing or arguing, but being indifferent to each other and having gaps in their hearts, making mediation less effective.
Be on guard, the most obvious situation is bedridden dreams. Due to the continuous accumulation of disputes, couples have become wary from estrangement. In the form of vigilance, fetishists often conceal their wealth and income from each other, while externals conceal their interactions with the opposite sex. In order to prevent the other party from seizing the opportunity and understanding the truth, both parties are on guard in terms of economy, social relations, and even personal career and future issues, and are also keeping their mouths shut, layer by layer guarding against each other like theft.
If disputes are not reasonably resolved, they will continue to escalate, causing more serious disputes and increasing mutual vigilance. This result formed a vicious cycle, and finally cracks appeared. Cracks manifest as strong dissatisfaction in emotions and mutual deviation in behavior. At this time, most people with living conditions are separated; Those without living conditions, even if cohabiting, are still back to back, and the well water does not invade the river.
As the rift between us grew bigger and bigger, we were powerless to mend it and our relationship reached its end. There are generally three modes of choice for couples with broken relationships: one is to go their separate ways and divorce through legal procedures; Secondly, considering various reasons, it is inconvenient to divorce, so we have to make do with our lives, endure setbacks and bear heavy burdens, and the marital relationship remains in name only; The third is emotional breakdown, which cannot be reversed. It is just to torture the other party, refuse to divorce, "hold him (her) back, and not make him (her) happy". This kind of procrastination is both foolish and immoral, harmful to others and oneself.
There is a cause, there is a result, and so is the breakdown of emotions. The first two stages are formed within, which are the "cause" and generally belong to the category of inner activities; The latter two stages are external actions, which are "fruits" and generally belong to the category of putting into action. Therefore, to prevent emotional breakdown, adjustments should be made when marital conflicts arise and conflicts should be resolved in the bud.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)