Post Date April, 15 2023
Whether pre marital fear or marital fear, they are not in fact powerful beasts that hinder happiness. From a different perspective, thinking ahead of time about the issues that make you afraid of marriage can help you face them as soon as possible, soberly reflect on all the situations encountered in your marriage and family, establish a sense of crisis, and rationally seek solutions, thus approaching the true meaning of happiness. The five common pre marital fears can be interpreted from another perspective.
Maybe it turns out that we're people from two worlds
The glue between hot love and honeymoon tends to be flat after about three years of marriage, and disappears after seven years. The main focus of the family has begun to shift to the issue of the upbringing of the next generation, with few sweet words and intimate behaviors between couples, and even the increasing independence of the two, making them less and less dependent on each other.
Interpretation: Couples in the stable period after marriage do have stronger independent behavioral abilities and can maintain good life operations without needing each other. However, this does not mean that couples are becoming increasingly distant or even not part of the same world. On the contrary, they are increasingly emotionally dependent on each other. It is precisely because I am too familiar with and accustomed to this feeling that I feel like I am not. In fact, this means that you have entered a more tacit realm of harmonious coexistence.
If I get sick, can he stay and take care of me
Birth, aging, illness, and death are the natural laws of human reproduction, and no one can escape. Once one of the partners is caught in a disease, especially if a woman is caught in a disease, many women are very concerned about whether the other partner can abide by their promises and shoulder the responsibility of caring for the woman without any regrets without avoiding or retreating.
Interpretation: Before thinking about this question, why don't you put yourself in a different position? If it were him who caused the accident, what kind of behavior would you take? To avoid tragedies, the truth is often cruel. If you want more assurance when you are in a weak position, you need to increase the common wealth of the two people in this family.
I don't want to be like that couple in the future
Perhaps hearsay, perhaps in real life, there are a pair of living examples around you that frustrate you about marriage. The family is often filled with the smoke of war or even cold violence, or one party is cheating... It can not help but cause people to have doubts and worries about their future marriage life.
Interpretation: It is these living cases in reality that can serve as a teaching material for our marriage and life, drawing lessons from the issues contained therein, thereby avoiding the same mistakes in our own marriage. On the road that our predecessors have traveled, we can walk around rocks and large pits to reach our destination faster.
Lost in marriage
Perhaps most of the time after marriage is spent in the world of two people, leaving only work and family to live. In order to manage a family, they gradually lose their personal life, even their interests and personality, and become a woman who revolves around him and Guotai.
Interpretation: Marriage is a job in which two people work together to manage their business. Either party will make changes and retain their essence for the other party. In continuous adaptation and adaptation, the two eventually become the most suitable pair for mutual interaction. In addition to family and work, a woman cannot forget her best friend, who will always provide you with the warmest and most reliable support, whether for entertainment or for seeking help.
No more sexual interest
The longer you get married, the more familiar you become with your partner's body, and the lower your interest and frequency of having sex. If you're no longer interested in each other's bodies in the future, does that mean you're becoming less and less interested in your partner?
Interpretation: The patterns of marriage and family relationships at each stage are different, and the status and focus of members are also different. The pheromone that attracts the opposite sex to each other is a substance that lasts for a very short time. Once it disappears, it means that the feeling of love becomes weaker and weaker. But after the crazy love period has passed, there is a long and calm period of stability that follows. Moreover, no matter how many weekends have been spent, people still have great expectations for the next weekend, or they attach great importance to the issue of cooking. Why can't we treat this matter with perseverance and high spirits, just as we look forward to the weekend and treat the matter of eating, which only the two of you can do?
