Post Date December, 02 2023
After marriage, men will do more meaningful things to maintain their family. But they always have a Oedipus complex in their heart, which may be one of the reasons why they get married and find a partner who can replace their mother. But the wife is different from the mother. How to get rid of the man's Oedipus complex has become an urgent task for every woman.
In fact, men with Oedipus complex are very inferiority complex. Although they have grown up, they are mentally retarded. When they encounter problems, they always want to find someone who can help them make suggestions. If his wife can't give him more care, he will feel the family is deserted, and lose himself. As time goes by, he will feel that the marriage originally has a big gap with what he wants, and thus become tired of the family, There may even be sexual apathy or marital violence. That is to say, the man with an Oedipus has not yet completed weaning mentally. So how can I help my husband wean and restore the original beauty of their marriage?
1、 Let the husband understand that he has an Oedipus plot
A person has a certain cleanliness habit, and the most fatal thing is that they are unaware of it. As their wife, it is your responsibility and obligation to disclose your perception to them at the appropriate time. When confessing your doubts, it's best to use third-party power or use a strange chat account to befriend your husband, and then communicate your feelings to him through prolonged conversations. This not only won't hurt the couple's feelings, but you can also understand the husband's psychological changes.
As parents, they don't want to see their children in a mess during this process, so they plan too much for their children's future life, so much so that their children always go smoothly after marriage. The continuation of this plot after marriage will lead to serious disharmony in the marriage. This is fatal for an individual. As a wife, you must give a warning to your mother-in-law.
2、 Be brave enough to point out your husband's weaknesses and help him regain confidence
The misfortune of marriage is not caused by one person. Dare to point out the husband's shortcomings and help him recover from his psychological gloom, while also maintaining a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Because a man with Oedipus complex will never allow his wife to say that his mother is not half a sentence, which will make him feel guilty. Living under the shadow of maternal love for a long time without any independent opinions on the ups and downs of society can be fatal for a man.
3、 Cultivate his ability to excel in his work
In addition to emotions, the most important thing in our lives is work. It is inevitable that we will encounter unpleasant things in our work. At this time, men may even complain about social injustice because they hope that everyone should hold and care for them like their parents. Obviously, this demand is too fantastical and cannot be realized in real life. As wives, we must teach them some basic principles of life, Cultivate his ability to handle things independently, taste the success of setbacks, and he will gradually find himself.
4、 Actively cultivate the relationship between husband and wife with him
Marriage emphasizes the equality between husband and wife, and even to a large extent requires men to amuse women. But men with Oedipus complex do not know how to deal with the relationship between husband and wife normally, and their attitude towards marriage is difficult to be proactive. Because of cowardice, they choose extreme ways to cool down marriage. As a wife, we should take the initiative to cultivate emotions with him, so that he can understand earlier that emotions should be built on a platform of mutual respect.
With the growing number of only child families in China, the Oedipus or Electra complex is spreading rapidly. As parents, it is necessary to strengthen independence training for children from childhood, and never spoil children to become "dwarfs" in spirit.
