Every time my boyfriend goes on a date with me, he always wants to really get to the point, and I resolutely choose to refuse

I met my boyfriend online, and he and I are from the same province. After breaking up with my ex boyfriend, we got to know him and shared photos. We thought it was okay, so we met again. Due to the distance, we could only meet on weekends. He took me by the hand the second time he met, kissed me the third time he met, and had sex the fourth time he met, but I didn't agree.

On the one hand, it's because I'm relatively conservative, and on the other hand, I feel insecure. He didn't show any anger or respect for me, but every time he meets me, he wants to have sex with me, but I just refuse. Then after two months, the relationship didn't progress at all. I said let's call every day. He said he thought chatting online was better because I thought making phone calls, listening to voices, and speaking could help improve the relationship. However, he insisted on not agreeing. Later, he said that coming back at night was tiring and didn't want to talk, and I didn't know what to do?

reply:

As far as choosing a lover is concerned, although it is not important which way to get to know each other, as a netizen, it is inevitable to carry a sense of caution, and sometimes it may even appear unreliable. For this, you did a great job. In today's era of fast food dating, it's not easy to stick to your bottom line. I agree that girls should not easily have relationships with boys during the romantic stage. After all, women are a vulnerable group, and it is necessary to always do a good job of self-protection, especially when you have not fully understood your romantic partner, you cannot be reckless.

From your expression, every time your boyfriend meets with you, he never misses the opportunity to further maintain intimacy with you, until he wants to quickly break through your bottom line and take you down. His love motive is questionable, and his character needs to be marked with a big question mark. Although he appears to respect you and you refuse him without forcing you, he still repeats his old tricks every time he meets, which is a bit disgusting.

If he truly wants to get along with you, or has a genuine liking for you, he will choose to respect and accept all your requests, including the phone conversation you mentioned, while he haggles with you on specific communication methods, indicating that he does not attach much importance to you. He always feels that your relationship is not just plain and simple, as if both of you lack a true passion for love. What about him, I always want to go straight to the topic with you regardless of everything. What about you, expressing a firm refusal with caution, is this like the normal rhythm of a relationship?

I think there seems to be a lack of some tacit understanding between you, or topics of mutual interest. You need to find common hobbies and interests, so that the two of you can have fun together. Otherwise, when you two get together, he will be "enthusiastic" and intimidating, and you will appear cold and uninteresting there. So how can this love be discussed. So, whether choosing to communicate over the phone or online, start by discussing topics that interest each other and finding things that intersect with each other. Only then will the conversation become more and more lively and meaningful, otherwise we can only say goodbye.