I can't believe I was still a premature ejaculator for a long time after my wedding! At first, I always thought it was caused by the excitement in the first few days of my wedding, but in reality, it was the opposite. In those days, I had strong sexual demands, almost every day. My wife is also willing to have sex with me. However, every time my erect penis enters my wife's body, within half a minute, a stream of heat surges from my lower abdomen, causing uncontrollable ejaculation. At this moment, when my wife was about to enjoy happiness, I turned into a pile of mud.
Nevertheless, I refuse to give up in any way. That day, I left work early and went to the vegetable market to buy my wife's favorite food. I also used my skills to cook four dishes and one soup. I have heard people say that eel bone soup is yang tonifying and can increase sexual function. I secretly took several turtle shell pills before my wife returned home. Before my wife returned home, I opened red wine, lit candles, and played light music. After my wife returned home, I approached her affectionately and sat at the dining table, drinking all the wine from her glass. My wife is becoming more delicate. Before I had a good meal, I kissed my wife and got into bed with her. My wife was also very excited, with a hot red face and half closed her eyes. At that time, my desire had never been so strong. I felt as if I could dominate the entire world and eagerly entered my wife's body... Who could have expected that semen would spray out at the beginning.
I have learned everything about the failure and incompetence of men. I wrapped myself in a sheet like a failed general, and I crawled into the bathroom in a disheveled manner, tears gushing out... Since then, I have unconsciously developed a fear of sex. My relationship with my wife has become noticeably cold. Originally, when my wife came home from work, I would come forward and kiss her, but now I just say 'you're back' lightly. Even for over half a month, I dare not touch my wife's body.
My wife is also worried about me, sometimes taking the initiative to get close to me, but I coldly refuse. But I feel extremely painful inside, and I don't want to either! A man in his thirties is at the peak of his sexual desire, and I also crave the pleasure of being immortal and dying. I also want to fulfill my responsibility as a husband, so that my wife can enjoy the pleasure of sex. But I can't! What's the point of being such a husband? So one evening after dinner, I requested a divorce from my wife. I said, "I can't give you a perfect married life. You should have a better way of life. I'm sorry for you, please promise me a divorce
My wife cried and cried very sadly. No matter how I tried to persuade her, she would sob until I swore never to mention divorce again! My wife calmed down and said to me, "I also know that sex is really important for couples, but the more important thing between couples is still their emotions. We met for love and got married for love. Should we divorce for this kind of thing? Our love is also too fragile. Moreover, you are not incompetent, it is because you are too anxious. It will gradually get better after this conversation, My wife has taken several measures to help treat my premature ejaculation.
One is to give me confidence and explore sexual knowledge together. In fact, my wife, like me, is semi illiterate in terms of sexual knowledge and has only a partial understanding. So my wife changed her shyness and bought books on sexual knowledge from the bookstore. She also studied with me and found out the reason for my premature ejaculation, saying that I was too sensitive. I think so.
The second is to help me master sexual skills in the face of stimuli. In order to reduce my sexual sensitivity, my wife asked me to watch her naked under the light and let me slowly touch her... She also stroked my body and stimulated me, but didn't let me have sex with her. Let me control and prolong my erection time in desire.
The third is to care about me in life and let me approach sexual life with a calm heart. My wife followed the instructions in the book and provided me with necessary dietary supplements to enhance my physical fitness. And he told me that it doesn't matter whether you succeed or not during sex, don't take it to heart. The most important thing between couples is love, not sexual satisfaction. With the help of my wife and the fact that I change my position during sex, I primarily use my wife's position for the first time, and then transition to another position when I no longer experience premature ejaculation. In less than a month, I finally overcame the sexual fear caused by premature ejaculation, and both my wife and I enjoyed the joy and beauty of sexual life at the same time.
Editor's note: In reality, illness is not uncommon in cases like the one in the case, but most women adopt a complaining or swallowing attitude instead of a tolerant and helpful attitude like the wife in the case. This often increases the pressure on the man, leading to a vicious cycle and ultimately resulting in consequences such as divorce. The main causes of premature ejaculation can be divided into two parts: psychological (non organic) and physiological (including organic and non organic, such as physiological reasons caused by foreskin elongation or belonging to non organic premature ejaculation, organic refers to premature ejaculation caused by prostate diseases, etc.). With the accelerated pace of life and increasing work pressure, the number of premature ejaculation patients is increasing. Corresponding strategies should be adopted for different causes.
Firstly, it is necessary to popularize sexual knowledge, comprehensively understand the sexual history of different couples, and provide guidance suggestions based on the specific situation of the patient to overcome mental anxiety; The soothing time before sexual intercourse is essential. The man should be properly distracted and should not be overly nervous. The husband and wife should cooperate with each other and use various Behaviour therapy to extend the time of ejaculation. At the same time, they should cooperate with drug treatment to allow both parties to have enough time to reach the climax of Sexual arousal and sexual pleasure during sexual intercourse. The vast majority of premature ejaculation seen in clinical practice is caused by psychological factors. Many people have masturbation since childhood, so that any cause can cause ejaculation.
They also believe in sayings such as "one drop of semen, ten drops of blood" and "premature ejaculation in cases of kidney deficiency". As a result, they have been anxious and anxious for a long time. When they get married, they always worry about their "body deficiency" and "insufficient kidney yang", and their hearts are not secure, the more afraid they are of premature ejaculation. If anxiety and fear are caused by this, 'occasional' may become 'frequent'. Some causes of premature ejaculation are due to a disharmonious marital relationship, potential hostility, resentment, and anger towards the wife, which may cause premature ejaculation; Being too afraid of his wife and having a sense of inferiority; Or planning to "perform better" often leads to premature ejaculation involuntarily. Equality and mutual love between couples bring about harmonious sexual life.