Entering the door, I bumped into the nanny squatting on the toilet to clean up her lower body

My husband and I have been married for almost ten years and have worked hard together. Now his career is basically stable and his living conditions have greatly improved.

Last year, I had physical problems and stayed in the hospital for over two months. Since then, we have had a nanny. The nanny is from my husband's hometown, a village. She is more than ten years younger than us and is very beautiful. She usually calls her uncle my aunt, and I don't treat her as an outsider.

Since the Yuanxiao (Filled round balls made of glutinous rice-flour for Lantern Festival) Festival, I felt a little wrong. Although I didn't find anything or see anything, I always had a bad feeling. Even the look of the nanny and my husband was a little strange. On May Day, my husband returned from a business trip to another city and brought her a piece of clothing. Although I didn't give it to her due to my objections, I still feel that my husband is a bit abnormal towards her. It was like this until recently, when I returned home, my husband was sitting on the sofa watching TV. I walked in and went to the restroom. Perhaps the nanny thought it was my husband when she heard my footsteps, and even said in a coquettish tone that you are so annoying and always ignore others after everything is done. You don't know what I felt when I heard this sentence at the time. I suspected I had heard it wrong and couldn't even push the door in... When I pushed the door open, I found the nanny squatting around my towel on the toilet, cleaning her lower body like a hostess

At that time, I really couldn't contain myself. I started hitting her, and my husband quickly ran over from the living room when he heard the argument. They were both very embarrassed and wanted to explain to me, but I didn't give them a chance. That day, I called my mother-in-law over from my hometown and moved out on my own. The next day, my husband and mother-in-law came to pick me up at my place of residence. My husband said that things were not what I thought they were. It was just that Xiaofu (referring to the nanny) saw that I was not at home and took a shower at home because I was too serious to her when I was at home. Then my mother-in-law also said that she watched Xiaofu grow up from a young age, and she was confident about her character. She was definitely not that kind of person, so I didn't want to think too much.

To be honest, at that time I even suspected that the sentence I heard was my own illusion, so I followed them home with half an effort. However, less than two days after returning home, I estimated that the nanny had intentionally let me discover it. From under her pillow, I found a diary that recorded everything that had happened. When my husband went to my hometown to ask for a nanny last year, she actually promised. After hearing this, she begged her mother and mother-in-law to come and be our nanny. Less than half a month after coming to us, she had her family resign from Xu's family. Later on, she always took the initiative to hook up with my husband. Once, while I was not at home, she took the initiative to run to his bed, and he even refused her. But my husband never told me about that matter, nor did he dismiss her. Then they went back to their hometown to sweep graves together on Qingming Festival. She took her husband's car home together and had a relationship when she returned... until the scene when I suddenly returned home not long ago.

The nanny is a very scheming person. She is usually very observant and can also act. She talks to people and ghosts and ghosts, but from the beginning, I didn't have a good impression of her. By the way, and also, in her diary, she said that she would take two years to completely replace me, become the mistress of this family, change her fate, and her seemingly inspirational words made people feel extremely funny.

The current situation is that I didn't tell my husband about this, but my heart is very troubled. On the one hand, I am a very perfectionism, and I certainly can't tolerate my husband to do such a thing according to the original, but on the other hand, I hesitated. The nanny is so resourceful, and I certainly don't want to let her succeed. Also, from the fact that my husband has refused her, it shows that my husband still loves me very much, I just couldn't hold onto my bottom line. If I were to switch to another man, it might have been so bad. I actually know this in my heart. So, now I just want to ask for a suggestion on how I should handle this matter? If you were me, would you divorce? By the way, by the way, my husband and I also have a 6-year-old daughter, which is also one aspect of my consideration for divorce.

Reply: Hello! The reason why your marriage is like this today is that the three of you should be at fault, with the nanny being the main culprit. Your husband has made significant mistakes, and you are also jointly and severally liable for negligence.

It is obvious from her diary that she was malicious from the beginning, begging to come to your house and resign from the promised family... It can be said that she paved a way for herself from the beginning, let alone leaving a way out for herself. Imagine having such a young woman live in your house, and yet you behave so recklessly and are often away from home. It would be really difficult not to come up with something.

Of course, your husband's mistakes are also very obvious. One is his lack of determination and sense of responsibility. The other is being indecisive in handling things. After the first time the nanny ran into your husband's bed, he should have decisively and completely resigned her. Otherwise, there wouldn't be such absurd things happening afterwards.

As the saying goes, if you are not afraid of thieves stealing, you are afraid of thieves thinking. To be frank, as long as this guilty nanny stays at your house for an extra day, your marriage will be at risk for another day. Although both you and your husband have faults, the key point is still with the nanny.

This is not a defense for a man's infidelity, but an objective fact that we must be clearly aware of. There are not many men in the world who can truly withstand the seduction of another young woman for a long time. So, I hope you can still forgive your husband for his past absurdity and mistakes. The key to solving the problem now is to let your husband know the truth of the matter as soon as possible, and the best way to let him know the truth is to have him personally see the nanny's diary. This may be more conducive to making your husband truly make up his mind and eliminate even a little bit of guilt towards her. In addition, there must be a calm and sincere communication between your husband and wife, which is the unity you must have when foreign enemies invade. At the same time, it is also recommended that you be the vanguard of this marriage defense battle, which means that you will do this villain, and you will have to completely shatter the nanny's dream and drive her out of this house without hesitation. On the one hand, this approach is logical and avoids some unnecessary trouble. On the other hand, it won't make your husband too embarrassed in his hometown. But the premise is that he must stand behind you from the bottom of his heart.

(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)