Happiness cannot be expected from others, but must be created by oneself. Marriage life is inevitably contradictory. As a husband, what you need to do is reduce contradictions and create happiness.
1. A big man needs to learn to be patient with everything
Many people may sneer at these words. I thought to myself, why should I endure? Yes, sometimes it's not your own fault, but you just need to endure in order to protect yourself. Isn't this necessary for many things in reality? This is also what Confucianism, which we Chinese people have always admired, has given us. But to be honest, sometimes it's not advisable to hold back, but there's no way. This is a reality. So, if you want to continue protecting your love and saving it after encountering a romantic enemy, you must be patient. The reason is simple: the reason why a lover can be attracted to your rival must be because your rival has more than you, and at this time, in the lover's heart, the score given to your rival is already higher than the score given to you. If you make a lot of noise, it will only reduce your score. So, endure it. Unless you really want to give yourself a marriage.
2. Learn to be tolerant and ensure a happy life
The tolerance mentioned here is definitely not an unprincipled tolerance, nor is it an unlimited tolerance. It is true that tolerance must be limited. But please remember, female friends, that tolerance, as a magic weapon, is definitely never outdated. Tolerance is definitely meaningful in specific situations at specific times and in specific situations. Good steel needs to be used on the blade, that's what it means. When necessary, tolerating not only gives oneself a step away from the dilemma of being torn apart, but also allows the lover to reflect on their mistakes in a grateful state of mind.
3. Learn to make loved ones feel their love
Time may pass and your charm may still be gone, but love cannot fade. I know a chubby older sister, but it's not that I speak unkindly. The fact is that this sister's appearance is absolutely beyond praise. However, his handsome and accomplished lover was irresistibly attracted to her. What is the reason? It's love. Her selfless and meticulous love for her lover filled his heart with a sense of happiness and gratitude. It should be said that most people are temperamental beings, so we should exchange our hearts and compare them to each other. In love, no one is a fool, so don't expect too much. You don't love someone, but they will love you very much.
4. Lovers and oneself are always a community of interests
This is the most central and insightful point. This principle must be understood by both spouses. The community of interests mentioned here is not just about money. You two are advancing and retreating together in all aspects of life. Many female friends are unaware of this and take the initiative to demolish men's platforms, resulting in only one outcome, which is a win-win situation. Unless you want to separate from him and find a new partner, you two are bound together as grasshoppers. That is definitely both prosperity and loss.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)