Introduction: In long-term married life, complaints, venomous tongues, and suspicions can directly affect the relationship between husband and wife. The harmonious relationship between husband and wife is very important for the entire family. To avoid getting lost in marriage, it is important to avoid the following situations.
1. Divorce threat
During the quarrel, the husband said, "I can't make it anymore. Let's get a divorce." The wife said, "I regret marrying someone like you."
Comments: Often talking about divorce is a threat to the other party. Over time, like the story of a wolf coming, there can be a crisis of trust. Marriage is not only a certificate, but also a responsibility.
2. Hurtful words hurt people
"The couple drove to work together, and the woman screamed all the way, 'Are you sick? If you want to die while overtaking like this, I don't want to die yet!'"
Comments: Couples should respect each other more and leave some room for each other when speaking. Don't be reckless and say whatever comes to mind. If you go too far, your "killing power" is too strong, which can bring pressure and grievance to the other party.
3. Mutual suspicion
"Coming home so late, who did you go on a date with?" As soon as the husband got home, his wife kept flipping through his mobile phone to check for strange phone numbers and text messages. Even when he spoke to the opposite sex for a few more words, he became jealous.
Comment: This is because there is too little space for the other party. Cultivate your hobbies and go dancing and walking at the community fitness center. When your life is rich and colorful, you won't focus on the other person.
4. Long Cold War
"After returning home, he sat in front of the computer chatting or playing games online, ignoring me at all."
Comments: Many emotional and marital breakdowns begin with apathy. Apathy is the scariest thing in marriage. If the cold war lasts too long, one party will be bored with this state, and either party will display a "shield" or choose to run away or fall into the arms of a new confidant.
5. Transform the other party
One family member likes to chat, serve dishes, and persuade others to drink during meals. They feel that this is the only way to be lively and close. "While the other family member doesn't like to talk during meals, they should keep food close to them, and if they want to eat other dishes, they should use public chopsticks. They believe that this is civilized.". Family gatherings often end up unhappy.
Comments: Couples should never blame each other. Instead, they should change to each other through communication. As two people slowly approach each other, they will find a new connection point. Remember not to have the idea of transforming each other. Doing so is futile, because it is difficult for people to change themselves, let alone change a family.
6. Blindly demanding
"I do all the housework after marriage alone. She doesn't even wash a bowl, but she criticizes me for cutting vegetables too large. She puts too much sugar in this dish and too little salt in that dish."
Comments: Couples should remember the sentence: "There is only reward when there is effort." When you receive love from the other person, use words or actions to express gratitude to the other person. For example, when a wife is doing housework, even if you can't get in the way, it's best to stand by and chat with her, saying, "You've worked hard," to make her feel that the value of labor is fully recognized by her husband. Of course, if doing housework feels like a chore, it's best not to do it. "Because the more you work, the worse your mood becomes, and you can always use this bad mood as a bomb to attack the other party.".
7. Not considerate
After a hectic day of work, many professional women still have to rush home to cook. While busy in the kitchen, due to the anger of their husband at the company's leadership, they start to get angry as soon as they enter the door, saying, "It's so late, why haven't you prepared the meal yet? What have you done?"
Comments: When the other party loses their temper, they should give due consideration. "If you work hard all day, wash your face first, and your meal will be ready soon." is the best "fire extinguisher". Of course, those who vent their negative emotions should often do physical exercises to let their resentment evaporate with sweat, or shout loudly in deserted places such as small rivers and woods.
8. Neglect of husband
After many young girls have children, they ignore the existence of their husbands, focus their attention on the child, focus on raising the child well, and even become more emotionally attached to the child. Does this make a husband feel like he has a place in his wife's heart besides the children?
Comments: When the child grows up, couples should not focus all their attention on the child. In life, we should focus on the husband and wife, and only a family with three pillars is the most stable. Once the husband is not satisfied for a long time, he will go outside to seek emotional support, which can easily lead to extramarital affairs, which can lead to a crisis in the relationship between the husband and wife.