Self awakening. A philosopher once said that a person can only further mature through a true pain and torment of heartbreak. Faced with the reality of heartbreak, it is not a bad thing to clear up one's hot headed mind, regulate one's words and actions, reassess the other person's personality, draw experience and lessons from it, and promote psychological development and maturity.
Moreover, young men and women have always had ambivalence from contacting each other to forming a family because of the differences in individual needs and motivations, and the chances of success are not necessarily great.
So, falling in love is a natural social phenomenon. Since millions of people have come over, why can't you get through it? After all, love is not the whole of life.
It's not worth ruining one's health or causing harm to one's career in order to break up a relationship. The story of 'good luck and bad luck' in the self comforting idiom allusion can be used for reference by those who have lost their love. Good and bad things can be transformed into each other. Understanding this dialectic is very useful for getting rid of psychological difficulties.
In Western countries, people like to use the phrase 'someone who changes their heart is not worth loving' as a psychological comfort. Indeed, being with someone who doesn't love oneself is a form of torture, and breaking up as soon as possible is a great blessing in misfortune.
Self motivation purifies and sublimates the temporarily unattainable desire for love, striving to enrich and improve oneself, and achieving a higher pursuit to achieve psychological compensation and satisfaction.