Post Date December, 03 2023
What should I do if I break up in love? This is a problem that many people are concerned about. In fact, people who are heartbroken should take good care of their wounds. Breakdowns are everywhere, and every minute a couple breaks up. So do you know how to get out of the shadow of heartbreak after breaking up? Let's try these methods with the editor below.
Eight ways to get rid of heartbreak
1. Properly vent emotions
Don't let sadness, frustration, and anger accumulate and gnaw at our bodies and minds. To cry, when taking a shower, you can cry to your heart's content. If you want to scream, find a place without anyone and shout loudly. To tear it, close the door and tear it vigorously. If you want to confide, have a good conversation with a close friend. But when venting, be sure to pay attention to the target person, and do not arbitrarily find someone to be a bad luck ghost, throw tantrums at him, and harm the innocent.
2. Situational distancing method
Go see the vastness of the world, broaden your horizons and mind, and you will feel that your momentary love is very annoying and insignificant compared to it. If you don't have the money to travel or move, you can also repaint the house and rearrange the furniture to erase the traces of memories.
3. Thinking interruption method
In the early stages of a breakup, you indulge your thoughts of missing the other person, and after wild thoughts, it makes you feel sad and exhausted, exhausting your thoughts. After several months like this, if you still cannot break free from your emotional dreams and the pain period of heartbreak is still endless, it proves that you need this therapy to pour cold water on your overheated longing. Find a box and store all the things that ignite sadness or memories in this' Pandora's Sadness Box 'to avoid experiencing emotional arousal. Once you realize that you are addicted to past events again, immediately exercise, sing military songs, or even shout one or two, pat a few tables, or play a few uplifting songs to suppress or cut off the trend of thought. This is a commonly used "thought interruption method" in psychiatry, which is effective in dealing with mental illnesses such as heartbreak.
4. Travel abroad
Having more exposure to nature after a breakup is a great way to heal wounds. Watching the mountains and the sea, experiencing the vitality of nature, can also bring about a change in mindset, and no longer feel sad about one's personal emotions. Integrating into nature, treating love and heartbreak as a natural process in which all things thrive.
5. Get busy
After a breakup, there is a great psychological loss and a greater sense of loneliness. On the one hand, the family and friends of the breakup should support the breakup in a timely manner, and on the other hand, the girl who is in a breakup should also do something, especially those things that are rarely touched on in daily life, even if she has any interest. This is actually an emotional transfer method, which allows oneself to focus on the feelings of heartbreak and engage in things that interest oneself. At the same time, you can also arrange your meeting activities according to your stage of breakup, reduce your exposure to the internet, and experience life in real life, such as traveling abroad, playing basketball, participating in public welfare activities, etc.
6. To meet more strangers
The best cure for a broken relationship is to start a new one. So you need to meet more heterosexual friends. The more you meet, the more you will find that there are many excellent boys and girls in the past. Her ex boyfriend and girlfriend have such a good character, which is really bullshit. Why did I blind my eyes to her in the first place.
7. Take out a pen and paper, and list their pros and cons separately
If his disadvantages outweigh his benefits, then why do you care about him? If what you love is the emotions you put in, then forget it! Spare yourself. If his strengths and weaknesses are equal, then don't worry, you will encounter people who are more attractive to you than him. If he only has advantages without disadvantages (or there are few disadvantages), then you need to circle one below: (1) He is perfect. (Is it possible -) (2) You are blind. Either you don't really understand him, or what you love is an illusory ideal image (created by yourself or fabricated by him). This kind of love is not real, not solid, and cannot be maintained. Break up early, good morning!
8. Stimulation therapy
In the early stages of a breakup, you are constantly haunted by the memories of the past. Deliberate suppression can only temporarily make you forget, but the next day when you open your eyes, it comes again. Can you really stop thinking if you don't think about it? Can you really forget if you want to forget! The human mind is the most rebellious thing, the more forced it is not to think, the more unbearable it is to think; I hope to forget, but unfortunately, I can't forget. Unless you have already practiced the skill of "mind like water", according to psychological research, temporarily suppressing emotions and suppressing thoughts will only make the next wave of emotions more painful when they rise again.
Editor's conclusion: Emotion is like this, so only the world can say: Love is the most poisonous poison in the world. However, we cannot sink into this, we must take responsibility for ourselves. Calm down and follow the above methods to relieve inner pain. Raise your head and become a smiling person.
