Post Date December, 03 2023
There is a big difference between men and women in expressing emotions, with women being very concerned about details, while men are careless and careless. Women like to judge whether men care about themselves from small details, which are precisely the issues that men overlook, and many family conflicts come from this.
Under these conditions, women are more likely to choose to use "sexual punishment" as a means of resolving marital conflicts. The problems that men originally thought were insignificant were placed on the "bed surface" to solve, and they had to repeatedly tolerate for the sake of "sexual happiness". Faced with repeated 'threats' from women, men gradually lose patience and develop resentment, thereby deepening the rift between husband and wife.
Two years ago, Mr. Zhu and his wife Xiaomi started an advertising company. Due to the company's well-managed operations, it had already become a thriving business in less than two years. In order to help Xiaomi take care of her children with peace of mind, Mr. Zhu advised Xiaomi to go home and become a full-time wife. He can handle the company's affairs alone, as the money he earns now is enough to support her and her children. As a full-time wife, Xiaomi devoted almost all her energy to her husband and children. At first, there was nothing amiss, but within six months, Mr. Zhu found that his wife was paying special attention to his whereabouts and almost every day had to ask Xiaomi for early instructions and report late, otherwise she would be very unhappy.
Mr. Zhu's first encounter with his wife's "sexual punishment" was to recruit a female secretary for himself. It was normal for a female secretary, but in Xiaomi's opinion, having a female secretary in front of his husband was like setting up a ticking time bomb scenario. The two had a big argument over this matter, and as a result, Xiaomi cried bitterly, saying that her husband no longer loved her. When Xiaomi cried, Mr. Zhu softened his heart. Previously, both of them were fighting at the bedside. So Mr. Zhu coaxed Xiaomi into bed as before, but this time Xiaomi did not compromise and remained stubbornly unwilling to comply. Mr. Zhu had to promise Xiaomi not to hire a female secretary, and the two of them reluctantly came back once.
Xiaomi, who tasted the sweetness from it, became uncontrollable from then on. As long as Mr. Zhu didn't agree to her request, she refused to get intimate with him. The repeated twists and turns made Mr. Zhu feel completely cold hearted, thinking that he would have a decent appearance outside, but he would have to compromise when he returned home, without even the right to be a husband. From then on, Mr. Zhu no longer took the initiative to get intimate with Xiaomi. The saddest thing is that when Xiaomi took the initiative to get intimate with Mr. Zhu, it was difficult for him to arouse interest.
Women are more likely to choose "sexual punishment" than men
Due to the different ways in which men and women express their emotions, it is easy to develop the idea that "men are the ones in love". The concepts of "which man is not lascivious" and "heroes are sad and beautiful" all suggest that "sex" is a weakness of men. A man can skip meals, spend money, and smoke, but it's even more painful to have them skip sex than to kill them.
Women, on the other hand, are on the contrary, and social beliefs believe that women's sexual life is dispensable. These concepts make women feel that having sex is a loss, so they naturally want men to meet their demands through "sexual punishment", and believe that this is a natural thing.
Sexual punishment is harmful but not beneficial
Women should avoid using "sexual punishment", and do not think that it can make your man obedient. Using it once or twice may still be effective, but if used too much, its side effects can be very serious.
Firstly, 'sexual punishment' damages family relationships, blocks the channels for normal communication and exchange between couples, and leads to conflicts between couples. The correct way is to calmly explore and solve problems; Secondly, "sexual punishment" can easily make the punished party feel that "sex" is a transaction, insulting their normal feelings of sexual life, and even causing physiological disorders for both spouses.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
