Post Date April, 15 2023
My husband has been frequently texting his female boss recently. He usually likes to sleep in and sets an alarm clock at 7am on weekends. Once the alarm clock rings, he wakes up and goes out. I have a strong suspicion of him. When he was brushing his teeth, he asked him what he was doing, but he threw a glass of water at me and shouted, "It's none of your business where I'm going. You have no right to meddle in me! You stay out of my business in the future!" His temper is getting worse and he often gets angry and throws things around.
A few nights ago, I was texting my female boss at home. I leaned over and glanced at him. He immediately shouted angrily, "I told you to look, look. What I hate the most is that he threw something and grabbed his laptop and walked towards the bedroom. He had just stepped into the bedroom for a second before the door was closed, and with a clang, a bowl smashed over and shattered. This kind of thing is too scary, and it often happens! I can't stand it anymore!
I have decided to run away from home. The next day after he left, I packed my things and stayed at the hotel. After staying for a few days, he didn't even come to me. I really don't think he has any feelings for me anymore.
After returning home, I talked to him about divorce and said if he had someone, I would give it to him. But he remained silent and eventually moved his parents to persuade him. Did he cheat? What should I do? Do you want a divorce?
Ms. Zhu:
Obviously, your life is in a mess right now, and as for whether to divorce or not, we need to analyze the situation in detail. First of all, your husband has always been so irritable, and it's just a matter of time. He hasn't been caring enough for you, and it's just a matter of time. If this has always been the case, then it is your choice to marry him after you know it. If it happened later, it's best to figure out what caused it. This is the key to solving the problem.
Even if your husband is at home, he often contacts his female boss and sends text messages, which may not be a communication in the workplace. You should also think for yourself whether it is your fault that has caused him to need to contact others frequently.
Your husband should also be quite conflicted and troubled now. It's best for both of you to lower your profile, communicate well, find the root cause of the problem, and then decide on the direction of your marriage.
