Post Date April, 15 2023
China has a high divorce rate, premature cohabitation or incentives. Modern young people are becoming more and more open, and they are no longer as cautious and cautious in their treatment of love and marriage as their parents. If it is inappropriate, they can just break up or divorce, and cohabitation has become a very common social phenomenon.
How to Treat Cohabitation Correctly
Cohabitation, which is one layer deeper than dating and one layer shallower than marriage, is basically not protected by law and was previously even considered unethical behavior. "But now the younger generation thinks it's foolish not to live together for a while before getting married, and they don't want to repeat the mistakes of the previous generation, marrying in haste and ending in divorce.". Therefore, many people believe that cohabitation is only a useful means to avoid unhappy marriages and divorces. However, the reality is not as expected. Many men and women do not enter the marriage palace after cohabitation, but end up breaking up. People gradually believe that men choose to cohabit just to make it easier for them to live together with women, and they will choose to abandon them once they get a woman. Therefore, cohabitation is also considered as an irresponsible approach to love, which has been rejected by many people.
Recently, research has shown that the earlier cohabitation before marriage, the faster divorce after marriage. What are the necessary connections during this period? Let's take a look.
Men are still playing with their hearts
I remember in "The Good Times of Daughter-in-law", Mao Feng said a sentence after his marriage, "How can I feel like I haven't had enough fun yet?" So he chose to evaporate on earth the next day after his marriage and ran away. At that time, he was 26 years old. This is a good case study that proves that men have a strong sense of playfulness. For men, falling in love is a game for two people. After playing the game enough, men will choose to end their free era of marriage and enter the besieged city.
The man who can choose to cohabit earlier before marriage proves that he is still an immature man with a playful mind. If he does not have a playful attitude, he will definitely think carefully before cohabiting and will not easily choose to cohabit so early. Marriage requires a mature man to maintain it for a long time. Marriage is higher than love, because it represents a responsibility to the lover and family. An immature man focuses on himself, and whether he is happy or not is the most important thing. Therefore, the earlier a man cohabits before marriage, the less he will change after marriage. He still goes his own way, and the earlier he divorces, it's not surprising.
Tired of married life
Perhaps you would say how can you get tired of married life just after getting married? Because cohabitation is a form of marital life, there is a saying that cohabitation and marriage are the same, except that marriage has an additional certificate.
It is said that love is easy to get along with, and cohabitation is not like love. "When you are in love, all you show the other person is your own good side. However, there are many challenges to living together, and all your shortcomings will be exposed in front of the other person. You will have to bear household chores, family expenses, personal privacy, and other issues.". These many problems are enough to make cohabitation fall apart.
"People have a period of freshness when they treat something, and when the freshness passes, they become bored, not to mention cohabiting, and there is a seven-year itch after marriage.". The earlier people cohabit, the earlier they lead a married life, and naturally there is no novelty after marriage. Naturally, the earlier divorce occurs. Men and women who choose to cohabit have fewer traditional beliefs about marriage and divorce, and do not feel that marriage is sacred. This means that after cohabiting men and women get married, once the marriage becomes morbid, it is easier to decide to divorce.
Marry out of responsibility
Once men and women cohabit, they will receive the attention of many relatives and friends. People around them will urge them to get married: "When are you getting married?" At friends' weddings, people often ask cohabitants, "When will it be your turn?" These social pressures can make the lives of some cohabiting men and women more intertwined, and they reluctantly decide to get married, mostly out of guilt or fear, rather than true love.
Many men, after living with a woman for several years, are hesitant about whether to marry each other, and feel ashamed of their cohabiting girlfriend because they have taken up too much of her time. If they do not marry her, she will only become a leftover woman who is difficult to marry, making it more difficult to find a partner. "A woman lacks control over the process of cohabitation, and she will assume that they are moving towards marriage step by step. However, the man may only want to save rent and enjoy the life of being accompanied. Therefore, among cohabiting men and women, if the man wants to get married, the chances of getting married will be greater, but if the woman wants to get married, the chances are not.".
"A marriage that marries a woman out of this responsibility and guilt will obviously not last long and will result in an earlier divorce.".
