Post Date December, 03 2023
The confusion of a 25 year old woman
Miss Liu, 25, now works as a secretary in a foreign-funded enterprise. Her requirements for her boyfriend are that she is over 30 years old and has rich emotional experience. Miss Liu said that in this fast paced era, emotions, which should have been complex, have become increasingly fast food. They get married when they make friends, and divorce within a few days. Young people don't take this supposed sacred thing seriously, they don't understand how to be considerate and love each other.
But people with rich experiences are different, they are more considerate of each other. Some experiences and stories a person experiences before marriage can be considered a bad thing. Mature men have experiences, stories, frustrations, bearing, and taste. "I allow him in my heart to let loose before marriage, and I will feel more relieved to marry me after everything has gone through.".
The author conducted a small-scale survey in some universities. Of the 140 people surveyed, 92 agreed that people with rich emotional experience before marriage would be more faithful to their marriage after marriage. Thirty people objected, while 18 did not express their views. Among those who agree, 85% are women, accounting for the vast majority. Is it true that the palace of marriage needs to be paved with the experience of "letting loose"?
Women have different psychological needs for men
From this relatively common behavior of women, it can be seen that women have psychological needs for men. Generally, women are individuals who live in emotional and emotional experiences. They particularly emphasize that men who appear in life can bring themselves not only material security, but also basic emotional psychological needs to meet.
Because current economic problems are basically guaranteed and survival is not the biggest obstacle, the desire to satisfy emotional needs will become stronger and more lasting.
"The tolerance of the entire society towards both men and women is also increasing, and premarital sexual behavior is no longer an unacceptable thing for everyone. Moreover, many people believe that individuals who have sexual behavior are more sexually mature, and that the desire to understand the emotional needs behind sex is an eternal topic. Therefore, premarital indulgence does not constitute a psychological threat to becoming a partner."
Young women's desire for men who can emotionally care for themselves is a subconscious impulse to seek "an ideal father.".
Mr. Wang, who runs a marriage agency in Beijing, said, "I have been running a marriage agency for more than 10 years, and in the past year or two, I have become a bit confused about the psychology of today's girls. The era of looking for a suitable family and age is gone. Nowadays, more and more girls, whether young or slightly older, are willing to find men who are older than themselves and have rich emotional experience when looking for a partner.", The concept of pure love that has always existed is gone.
Women yearn for men's protection
From a psychological perspective, women of different age levels also have different psychological implications for seeking the same man: For young women, their desire for mature, emotionally capable men who can give themselves more attention is a subconscious impulse to seek an "ideal father," a kind of patriarchal complex.
In the eyes of every girl, there is an ideal father role. This father is masculine, authoritative, and omnipotent, and makes people feel safe and reliable, so that they can protect themselves and treat themselves as if they were a daughter forever.
"We often say that" a daughter is a father's eternal lover "has a psychological basis. As long as it is a father's daughter, it will be loved and cared for throughout his life, and the father will tolerate his own willful and charming behaviors.".
