Sexual Health
Divorced women are obsessed with the body of a hidden man and cannot extricate themselves after knowing the truth
I am thirty five years old this year, and my first marriage lasted for seven years. I became a husband and wife without any feelings, but ended up splitting up unhappily, leaving the children to my ex husband. After my marriage failed, I almost closed myself, rarely got along with the opposite sex, and I didn't know how to contact the opposite sex. "My parents are old and have only one daughter, and they are worried that they will leave me alone in the future. They have no brothers or sisters, and they are all alone.". As soon as they saw me, they nagged me to find another one quickly. "I couldn't bear the yearning eyes from my parents. After a year of divorce, I tried to find my other half.".
At first, I chose to make a blind date. I sat down with someone I didn't know, and I sweated in embarrassment. During the conversation, most of them are asking questions about family background, past love history, and so on. Even if they succeed, what can they do? What's the difference between my last marriage and mine? In the midst of disappointment, I met a man online, and we shared our dissatisfaction with social reality across the internet. After about a month, he suddenly said that he had a strong feeling of wanting to protect me. Perhaps it's because I haven't heard such ambiguous words for a long time, and I'm so moved.
In the following days, every word he said to me made me feel very comfortable. He said he was two years older than me, divorced like me, and lived with his daughter. The reason why his ex-wife divorced him was because of his career as a programmer and frequent overtime work. She couldn't bear it and felt she was being ignored. I believe him, and after so many days of conversation, I feel his sincerity. Because we were in the same city, we decided to meet.
The first time we met, nothing happened. He invited me to dinner, asked me to see a movie, and accompanied me across the road. I sneezed a little and quickly took off his clothes and threw them over me. Perhaps it was his thoughtfulness that moved me, and perhaps I was also a lonely and affectionate person. Since that time, I can't live without him anymore. The next few times, I was completely convinced by him. He invited me to the hotel, and I had anticipated what would happen to us, and I was ready.
He took off my clothes one by one, and I didn't refuse, cooperating silently. He took the initiative to kiss me, emitting a charming aroma of tobacco in his mouth. He was very gentle to me during sex, and I was intoxicated in his arms and slept soundly. After getting familiar with him, he often came to my place to look for me, but he only performed the 'Duke of Zhou's gift' and didn't stay overnight at my house. The reason he gave me was that he wanted to go back and take care of the children. After dating for about half a year, I asked him when he could marry me. He still used his child as a shield, saying, "The child is small, I don't want to stimulate him." I'll talk about it later.
"But I haven't seen his children before. Every time I ask him to bring them together to meet me and cultivate feelings, he always finds reasons to excuse me until I receive a strange text message, which states that until my presence, please don't pester her husband again.". I was startled and quickly called to verify. Without saying a word, he confessed to me, claiming that he was separated from his wife and divorced. The property issue was not properly distributed, and his wife refused to sign, so he hid it from me. "I cried in anger, and even though I had been a junior, I was still obsessed with thinking and loving him every day.".
He came to apologize to me, and I was so upset that I didn't know how to accept it. "I admit I couldn't let him go. At the moment I learned that he was secretly married, I really collapsed.". "But I was" poisoned too deeply "to extricate myself.". Teacher, what on earth should I do? I have never felt this way before. I can't find a reason to stop this thought. Please help me.
Reply from the maintenance consultant:
When a woman is divorced, it is difficult to eliminate the invisibility in her heart. Once she meets a man who is in her heart's desire, the long-term gap in her heart will be filled up. Without a sense of security, she carefully protects her feelings, hoping for a second marriage, and can achieve her wish. However, your "being a mistress" completely happens without knowing it. No matter how much you feel for him or how deeply he treats you, he should not sow the seeds of love for you without any guarantee.
"Now that you can't extricate yourself, it's even the wrong start. He's already very shameful about his secret marriage to you. If you continue to sink, you may indeed become a third party.". "You have had sex with him without knowing it, and he deceived you. You should let him pay for your mistakes, rather than continue to follow wholeheartedly.".
Think about your parents. How disappointed would they be if they knew your current state? Don't let an unwanted relationship ruin everything you have. Leaving him is your best choice. If you are not willing, let him take action to show you, otherwise, he is really not worth your love.