Nowadays, there are three patterns of couples: one is same-age couples, one is old wives and young wives, and one is old wives and young husbands. However, in today's development trend, the majority of elderly couples have young wives. Girls all want to find someone older than themselves, which will hurt them; Men all want to find someone smaller, simpler, and less sophisticated than themselves. However, there are also many difficulties in the marriage of old husbands and young wives. Next, let's take a look together.
1. Age issues
The first issue with an old man and a young wife is age. For today's society, it is still difficult to accept this form of marriage with a significant age difference. Although marriage is our own business, we cannot pay attention to what others think. But worldly eyes can also kill people. When we walk on the street, can we accept the strange looks and directions of others? Moreover, as he grows older, he will appear older than himself, just like a father leading a woman. At that time, will you still be able to persist in yourself despite the opinions of the world?
2. Parental issues
If there is a significant age difference between old husbands and young wives, the most difficult to accept is from parents with traditional thinking. They will be extremely opposed, just like in the TV drama "Big Husband" where the 30 year old female protagonist Gu Xiaojun brought her 50 year old fianc é Ouyang Jian home to meet her parents, she encountered strong opposition from her own parents, especially her father Gu Dahai. Seeing a "son-in-law in law" who was about the same age as herself was unbearable, and she even fought fiercely against Ouyang Jian, refusing to attend her daughter's wedding. The father daughter relationship was once in a cold war. But for this kind of problem, parents should have a positive attitude. If two people are not married for a certain purpose, as long as the two people in love think it is very suitable. If parents can't put their minds right, they always interfere with their children's love, which leads to great pain for both the elderly and children, and the children's reverse psychology also increases. Therefore, it's better for the elderly to adjust in a timely manner.
3. Life habits issues
When two people enter a marriage, the romance gradually fades and the trivialities of life follow. A young wife who enjoys playing, eating snacks, and staying up late; But the elderly husband prefers quietness and a regular schedule. This leads to a problem with the lifestyle habits of the two people. When facing this issue, neither husband nor wife should disguise themselves unless they can truly help the other party change their habits. Generally speaking, before getting married, both parties should see each other's shortcomings more and see if they can accept them. Both parties should face each other in a real image, so that they will have psychological preparation before marriage, and after marriage, they should look more at each other's strengths and learn to be tolerant.
4. Child issues
Many elderly men and young wives are likely to have children with their predecessors. So, how to get along with children after getting married is another issue. If we are in harmony with each other, it's still good. If there is no harmony, it will make the chickens and dogs restless. Many children may feel a sense of inferiority and change their mindset after seeing their parents remarry, believing that their love has been deprived by others. At this point, the "young wife" should use her own love to alleviate this embarrassment, telling the child, "After the father remarries, it's not that your love is reduced, but that it's added, and more people are coming to love you." If you see your spouse paying more attention to your child, this situation cannot be avoided, and you should be prepared before marriage and get to know and understand each other more.
5. Taking care of issues
It is an undeniable fact that women all crave to be loved by their husbands. Perhaps when he first got married, he was older than you, taking care of you, caring for you, and caring for you, making you feel surrounded by happiness. However, when he gets old, his body will experience many conditions. And as you are young, you have to take care of him too early. This is not a matter of one or two days, can you do it well? Of course, we also need to think more about when the other party takes care of us, and this is also the time for us to give back. And couples should have supported and cared for each other. However, for this point, we need to be mentally prepared, as it is not a short-term event.
The above issues of old husbands and young wives require our consideration. If you really choose someone who is much older than yourself, you need to consider both the issue and how much you can handle and solve it. Of course, as long as two people truly love each other and work together, they will always achieve a satisfactory outcome.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)