Before interpreting each other's secrets, unmarried couples may already have many high fantasies and expectations in their minds. If there is not sufficient communication in advance, there is a high possibility of regret or disappointment on the wedding night, and in severe cases, one may even feel that "if one had known so, why should they have had it".
Especially in today's society, there are many "yellow" things, or although not yellow but also unscientific and objective "sex literature" works, which can easily elevate the "appetite" of unmarried couples.
Even some unmarried couples are afraid in advance that they will "perform poorly" or not achieve the "highest score" on their wedding night, which actually adds many unnecessary troubles and nervousness.
In addition, for the groom, please do not believe the folk boasting that "a golden gun never collapses, a hundred battles never lose", because if that's the case, instead, you should go to the hospital for a check-up to see if there is a sexual barrier of "difficulty ejaculating".
Some unmarried couples also believe that they have certain sexual preferences or special requirements, fearing that the other party may not be able to meet them or may offend them.
In fact, for people who have not yet had sexual experience, these self perceived "preferences" are often just some kind of sexual fantasy, which cannot be recognized. The key is how to be psychologically tolerant and considerate of each other, constantly debugging each other in sexual practice, and always finding a common way that both parties are satisfied with.
It should be noted that due to the difficulty of most parents, teachers, and peers in providing appropriate sexual education to unmarried women, and the belief that brides should not be proactive on their first night, there are still quite a few women in China who cannot naturally achieve orgasm on their wedding night.
This should be said to be a helpless reality. So neither the bride nor the groom should consider whether the bride has orgasm as the only criterion, let alone blame themselves or the other party for it.
Otherwise, it will arrive late and even disappear without a trace. If there is really no orgasm on the first night, the best way is to take a few days off, communicate and be considerate in love and daily life, and encourage the bride to relax as soon as possible, and then work together to find a suitable method.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)