Post Date December, 03 2023
Q:
Last weekend, my husband and I went to my mother-in-law's house to have dinner together. At that time, I didn't know what was going on. Anyway, it was a very small matter. My mother-in-law scolded my sister-in-law very harshly.
I give this example to say that mother-in-law is always criticizing her family, even her own daughter! Usually, I often see my mother-in-law ordering my father-in-law to do things, and directing me around.
"I saw my mother-in-law deeply afraid, and now if my husband doesn't go to her house, I would rather stay at home alone than be alone with her.". "There were several times before, when my mother-in-law and I were alone, her words became more and more impolite and rambling. At that time, I quickly stopped when I felt better.".
"My current concern is that I have only been married to my husband for one year, and I will have a long time in contact with my mother-in-law in the future, because my husband is a great filial son. Although there have not been any major conflicts between me and my mother-in-law yet, it is difficult to avoid friction in the future.". I often see online posts about a disagreement between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, resulting in a divorce between husband and wife. I don't want this kind of thing to happen to me. Teacher, how do you think I should prevent and get along well with my mother-in-law?
Answer:
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is indeed an indelible topic. It is wise to anticipate in advance that conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will bring discord to the relationship. Many issues become difficult due to lack of psychological preparation in advance.
In fact, in order to maintain a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or between husband and wife for a long time, one party's concession or even "sacrifice" is the key. The result of a hard encounter can only be a win-win situation, or even a "disaster to the fish in the pond".
From your narration, it is very appropriate to handle the relationship with your mother-in-law alone, and it shows tolerance and tolerance.
As the saying goes, "An old man in a family is like a treasure." Although it is not easy to transform the mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship into a mother-daughter relationship, as a younger generation, it is still necessary to tolerate the mother-in-law's temper as much as possible. Even if there is a dispute, don't overdo it, because saying it is like a thorn will stick in the other person's heart. Of course, if you have a significant difference in temperament and personality with your mother-in-law, even if you can't love the house and the crow, don't hate the house and the crow. Proper avoidance is also a way to solve the problem.
