Marriage life is like the changes of the four seasons, full of joy and unpredictability, with different difficulties and dangers in each season. Love is easy, marriage is difficult. Maintaining a happy marriage requires going through many ups and downs, perhaps getting off the car halfway, or getting old together.
1. A barrier
After the child is born. When the child is born, the pressure on the couple suddenly increases, and their original play and entertainment are greatly reduced. The "triangle" relationship generated by the arrival of the child has changed the original "two person world", and couples feel tense, confused, and confused about their marriage at the same time.
2. Second barrier
4-5 years after marriage. During this period, couples tend to find life dull and boring. My husband has been working for many years, but he has no bright future and is even more lazy about household chores; The wife is busy with both work and taking care of the children, and both husband and wife have no free time to love each other. At this time, they may find another confidant. A sociologist surveyed 70 women who had an affair with a married husband and found that most of these extramarital affairs began with simple friendship. When a husband or wife confides in others the confidences they should have told each other, both spouses are inevitably to blame.
3. Three barriers
Seven years after marriage. A survey by sociologists found that between the sixth and tenth years after marriage, couples' satisfaction with their marriage reaches its lowest point. In fact, the incidence of divorce also peaks in the seventh to tenth year after marriage. At this time, both spouses should help each other with the utmost patience and care to ensure the quality of their marriage.
4. Four barriers
About 20 years after marriage. At this point, the physical condition of both men and women gradually changes. Wives tend to be restless and anxious as they enter menopause, worried about losing all their charm, while husbands are worried about aging and losing their energy and agility. They cannot beat their sons in basketball and have no hope of improvement. At this moment, he was in need of understanding and comfort, and his wife also had the same request. If a couple cannot give each other, they may go to other members of the opposite sex to search for them.
Therefore, how to wait for a happy marriage has become an eternal problem that needs us to protect, explore, and answer. But we must firmly believe that as long as we work hard to irrigate, prepare, and wait, happiness is definitely not far ahead.