Post Date December, 03 2023
Contradictions can arise between anyone, and there are many ways to solve them, but the conflicts between husband and wife need not be solved by conventional methods. Never try to "fight wits and courage" with your lover like an enemy. This will only aggravate conflicts, make small things bigger and big things can't be sorted out.
Consultation is the key to resolving conflicts
When couples have conflicts over trivial matters, they often cause some disputes. Unreasonable couples may want to solve the problem in a "smart fight" way to meet their own wishes. But in the end, both sides may become victims of the fight, causing unnecessary anger and dissatisfaction, and even hostility to the other side.
In fact, the key to resolving conflicts between husband and wife is to learn to negotiate and express their views on the causes of conflicts. For example, when the husband is dissatisfied with shopping with his wife in the story, he can directly tell his wife that he doesn't like shopping, tell him that he likes to rest at home, and show her his determination not to go shopping. Then listen to her opinion on shopping. A woman wants her husband to go shopping with her, but it is just a lack of people to go shopping with her, and a need for a person to do shopping for her. At this time, you can help her come up with ideas, go shopping with her friends or colleagues, and then gently hand in your credit card. I'm sure she will be happy and ready to go out.>> Four secrets of a couple's love to old age
"Smart fight" steals chicken but does not erode rice
On the surface, "smart fight" doesn't seem to hurt the other party. It seems to be a euphemistic and tortuous expression of one's own opinions. However, it sometimes turns into the effect of "stealing chicken doesn't eat rice". Because "smart fight" often involves the fight for power, and this intention is very obvious, which will hurt people even more than you express your dissatisfaction directly to the other party.
When your plan is seen through by the other party, it may also cause the other party to lose temper or sulk, or even retaliate. In this way, it is really time for retribution. In order to avoid "intellectual warfare" between husband and wife, we must not regard ourselves as innocent victims, do not investigate who caused the trouble, and give up the idea of finding excuses for revenge. What we need to do in the face of conflicts is to concentrate on solving problems, and both sides should actively communicate and understand each other.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
