Post Date April, 15 2023
A husband and wife are like a whole, composed of two people. However, two people are independent individuals and have their own space. It is necessary for couples to get along with each other and meet each other honestly, but it is not necessary to say everything. It is unnecessary to say anything that does not affect the feelings of the couple. If you want to say something, you should also pay attention to the skill of saying it. Don't think it is good to say everything without reservation.
Now, in many movies and TV dramas, there is a scene like this: when one of the couple suddenly realizes or finds that the other party has concealed or deceived himself, it will break his heart. So, how should couples confess their secrets? Marriage experts put forward four suggestions:
Advance reservation
When you want to tell the other party some of your secrets, remember not to make a surprise attack, otherwise it will become a shock and will not achieve the desired effect. You can make an appointment with the other party in advance. For example, "I have something important to tell you. Can I take time to chat tonight?"
Choose the right occasion
If you intend to reveal your secret to the other party, do not choose a noisy and crowded place. "Disclosure" requires a quiet place. If possible, it is best to find a safe and neutral place, such as a study or a quiet park. It is best not to have a third person, even children, present.
Prepare to apologize
If your secret endangers the interests of the other party, you should be prepared to apologize, be sincere and ask for forgiveness. The correct way is to say "I'm sorry" to the other party, and then emphasize "I should have told you these things a long time ago, but I have been ashamed to do that. I hope you can forgive me."
Just say the general situation
Remember, when confessing the secret to the other party, don't say things too carefully, or even let go of a small detail. This will not only increase the other party's trust in you, but also leave an image in your partner's mind that is not easy to clear, affecting your feelings.
Experts remind that if your hidden things are purely your personal hobbies or privacy, but do not affect the feelings of both parties, there is no need to say that if you earn some extra money, you may not always report to your spouse. However, if something may affect the couple's life, the other party has the right to know, such as unpaid debts, chronic diseases, sexual or emotional problems suffered in the past, as well as some important choices currently facing, such as company layoffs, which are topics that should be seriously exchanged between couples. If you don't tell these secrets frankly, once accidentally exposed, your marriage may face a double blow: the first is the impact on each other when the truth is exposed; The second is the sense of betrayal and distrust caused by this.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
