Post Date December, 03 2023
Men come from Mars, women from Venus. People from two different planets naturally have significant differences in their attitudes, from love to marriage. Here are four aspects to help you understand the differences between men and women in terms of emotional and marital cognition!
Love is all about women, but only a small part of men
In the world of men, those who immerse themselves in romantic love all day are not promising, because men's achievements come from the development of their careers and the improvement of their social status, rather than relying on the dependence of their partners! As for emotions, they only eliminate their loneliness.
But the driving force of a woman's life comes from the wholehearted love of her partner, for which she is willing to make any sacrifices for him (as for work being just an activity that earns a salary and does not disconnect from society).
So women are often disappointed that men cannot put her first (second to their career, and sometimes second to their friends), while men cannot tolerate women asking him to prove that they love her all day long.
Men care about relationships, women care about feelings
The purpose of men pursuing women is to "establish a relationship", and usually in the pursuit process, men prioritize women and also show their best selves in order to win their hearts; But as long as the relationship is stable, the activities pursued will slow down or even stop, suddenly falling from peak to bottom. A man's romance begins with love at first sight and ends with lifelong engagement
Women are willing to accept men's pursuits because they feel good, and only sustained good feelings can determine a relationship. Once the good feeling stops, the relationship also stops. A woman's loyalty begins with a lifelong commitment to each other and ends in despair
Men's sense of crisis comes from the shaking of "relationships", which is why the most taboo thing for men is women's betrayal of "relationships". Once they think they are wearing a green hat, jealous anger will make them lose their usual rationality, regardless of their educational background.
A woman's sense of crisis comes from a decrease in her "status", which is why what a woman cares most about is that she is not the "favorite" of her partner. Once she thinks that someone else is more worthy of her husband's attention and care than her, even a quiet little woman can take amazing actions. (For example, making aqua regia) So as long as women make men look good, everything is easy to talk about; As long as men make women feel happy, they will also let bygones be bygones.
Men view marriage as an acceptance of obligations, while women view marriage as a relinquishment of rights
The man's decision to get married means that he will take care of her for a lifetime from now on. If a woman decides to get married, it means leaving the key to her heart to that man and accepting only his feelings (but if she takes the key but doesn't open it, the key will be taken back). Men express love through loyalty and support to continue relationships.
Women express love by sacrificing it, and rely on emotions to irrigate their feelings. A man's sensitivity is disabled as early as the day of marriage, and he will only come back to life if he feels in crisis. And women only want the feeling of being held in the palm of their hands and being loved, not really wanting men to give up on the world. Why should men be stingy with sweet words?
Men's communication relies on "speaking", while women's communication relies on "feeling"
If a man feels dissatisfied, he must speak up so that the other party can know, and there is no need to guess; And if we don't express our dissatisfaction! There is no way to improve convenience, so expressing dissatisfaction is to awaken the other party and solve problems, which is a bridge of goodwill communication.
Women are not accustomed to venting any dissatisfaction and often adopt a tolerant attitude in order to avoid damaging feelings and relationships. Women are also not accustomed to using words to express their emotions. Women believe that if men really care, they won't be able to detect women's dissatisfaction at all, even if they haven't spoken it out; But if a man is not attentive enough, there may be a crisis when he speaks up
Men need to communicate first to feel good. Women need to have a good feeling before they are willing to communicate. The biggest obstacle to communication between couples lies in language differences and their unwillingness to submit to each other's language, resulting in a lack of willingness to communicate. (This is also the origin of the argument)
Men often rule out women's complaints as' troubleshooting ', while women often use men's complaints as a symbol of' empathy and love '
Men always view women's complaints as dissatisfaction with their own shortcomings, thinking that as long as these shortcomings are corrected, problems can be solved and relationships can be unaffected. (But often women's complaints are just reminders of what men should do, rather than demands change.) Women often see men's complaints as a symbol of "no longer loving me," and then begin to question whether they are "no longer seductive," or whether the other person has a new partner. No wonder many women believe that just grabbing a man's stomach can catch him?
Plastic surgery or spending hundreds of thousands of yuan on a beauty salon to regain a man's attention. But in fact, men's complaints are often just based on the facts, not in disgust. The ignorance of men lies in the belief that correcting their behavior can redeem a woman's feeling of being hurt. In fact, the most effective way to heal wounds is to create a sweet touch, rather than vowing to never do it again.
And the naivety of women lies in thinking that dressing up like a wild flower can prevent men from picking wild flowers. In fact, sometimes men's likes and dislikes are not really about starting a new life, but about proving that they still have someone to choose from. At this point, the more you cry and make noise, the more counterproductive it is.
Men and women are born with different behavioral patterns in the emotional world. While men cool their passion and transition from romance to rational life after marriage, women only begin to open their hearts and prepare to enjoy romance. If a person who is disappointed in their marriage due to this is a first-rate fool, and therefore believes that changing a man (woman) would be better, it is a super fool.
Unless you no longer believe in marriage in your lifetime, instead of waiting for God to bring you miracles, it's better to learn to know men (women) and real communication methods.
