Post Date December, 02 2023
According to the Times of India on May 11th, Harvard University professor Daniel Gilbert collected divorce data from the United States in recent years and conducted an investigation into some divorced couples.
He found that married couples are happier, live longer, have a higher per capita income, and enjoy more sexual life than those who are single, divorced, or cohabiting. But if they have children, their existing sense of happiness will significantly decrease.
Looking forward to the arrival of a new baby seems to bring change to the family, giving both spouses new goals and focus. However, at the same time, hidden or overlooked differences and contradictions in the past will be exposed, and as the baby is born and grows, they will become increasingly serious
For example, some husbands do not do household chores and do not change even during their wife's pregnancy. The dissatisfaction of that wife will accumulate over time, coupled with significant emotional changes during pregnancy, making it easy for the two to argue. In addition, the issue of children's education is also a trigger for marital conflicts.
Professor Gilbert believes that this discovery is not a call for people not to have children, but rather to use the opportunity of pregnancy to revitalize marriage.
Husbands should accompany their wives to every obstetric check-up and learn about nurturing the next generation together. Doing something together can help couples reach a certain compromise and communicate emotions. Wives should learn to guide their husbands to do more household chores, praise their contributions to the entire family in a timely manner, and let men do more in a carefree manner
