Post Date April, 15 2023
When encountering a one night stand, both the betrayer and the victim wander between forgiveness and breaking. For those who still have feelings and want to continue living, forgiveness is the best solution. But this process of forgiveness requires both parties. If you are the betrayed party, you must first understand that it is very painful to let the accompanying person unconditionally give up on things that make you happy.
Betrayers' one-night stand behavior often stems from some kind of pain, and most victims may not want to listen to those high-sounding reasons, nor are they in the mood to pay attention to those old events. But what the betrayer says is the voice of his heart, which must be listened to and taken seriously. In addition, it is important not to restore your past relationship with the other person until they have sincerely expressed their intention to change their face, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes.
If you are a betrayer, you must understand how deeply you hurt your loved one, and be willing to face these emotional hurts deeply. At the same time, in the event of losing the support and emotional satisfaction of your lover, you must go all out to regain a close marriage relationship.
Before forgiving a betrayer, however, ask yourself the following questions:
1. Do you think your marriage or cohabitation relationship is still worth saving?
2. Are you willing to establish a code of conduct related to loyalty, and practice and maintain it?
3. Are you willing to pursue the root cause of the problem of one night stands? And honestly tell each other about the sadness and emptiness in their hearts?
4. Are you willing to work with the other party to alleviate the anxiety and harm caused by this matter to marriage and relationships?
5. Are you still sexually interested in your partner? Most importantly, is there still love between you? And has his (her) feelings not deteriorated?
6. Are you considering forgiving this matter? Does the other party want to mend their ways?
Scoring method:
"If the answer to each question is affirmative, add 2 points. A total score of more than 8 points indicates that you have reached the threshold of forgiveness.".
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