Post Date December, 03 2023
"I chased my husband back then, but now we're married.". My husband used to have a girlfriend who was far away in Xinjiang. After they broke up, he returned to Liaoning. We got to know each other and became friends. However, perhaps due to a recent separation, his ex girlfriend always contacted him, and my husband didn't talk behind my back. He talked openly and openly. He said to me that breaking up can also be a friend. I was jealous and even had a fight over this matter. After that, he compromised and deleted all her contact information, which I also believed.
But after two years together, suddenly one day, we found out that he applied for a QQ account to add her, and WeChat also applied for a account to add her. We also established a group (they used to be alumni) to add their Xinjiang classmates. I was very angry at the time. Why did he lie to me? He explained that she had added him first, and that they were good friends. In turn, he asked me, "Can't we just break up and become friends?"? But he still deleted her for me, and my husband never added her again.
"In our fourth year together, we have obtained a marriage certificate. Her ex girlfriend may have seen it in the space, so she added my husband's QQ and said, 'Are you still afraid to add me after you're both married?'"? At that time, I was looking at my husband's mobile phone and found it, but he refused in front of me (there were several times when she added him, so I won't talk about it all). Actually, I know this woman already has a boyfriend, but why does she always add my husband? I used to call and chat on video, but now I'm out of touch. As long as my husband uploads photos of us in the space, she will definitely go and see them. I don't understand. What is her mindset? Can we really be friends after breaking up? Please answer the question. "And they've had sex before, so I don't believe it. Can you be friends like this?"?
reply:
Hello, whether lovers can still be friends after breaking up may be a matter of different opinions. Personally speaking, I'm not disapproving of the fact that two people can still be friends after breaking up. I just don't think it's necessary. If both parties are considering each other, there's really no need to contact again. After all, there's always some embarrassment and discomfort when two people go back from being lovers to being friends, In particular, re entering a new emotional relationship with each other can cause trouble and impact, so why bother.
So, analyze why your husband's ex girlfriend is still "disconnected" from your husband. One possibility is that her personality is the reason. This woman is an informal and careless person, and she doesn't care about her previous relationship with your husband when he was a lover. She believes that the past is the past, and if she doesn't become a lover, she can still be a friend.
The second possibility is that this woman still has an unforgettable relationship with your husband. Regardless of the reason why they parted, there is always a feeling that hasn't been completely released in their hearts, and it's easy to forget it. Therefore, if you want to release this feeling through mutual connection, you may not necessarily do anything unusual.
The third is the attention of curiosity. Some people are like this. After separation from their lover, whether they voluntarily give up or are given up, they are always driven by curiosity to generate a sense of attention, always wanting to focus on how the other person is doing now, and whether they have found a significant other.
Fourth, there may be misdeeds. Due to the intimate relationship between two people, they didn't feel how good they were when they were together. Once they separated, they realized the value of each other. However, at this point, they already had their other half, even became a family, and it is impossible to continue together. It is better to maintain contact and intimacy between the two people outside of marriage as a compensation.
No matter what kind of psychology that woman has, for men, their ex girlfriends often refuse to take the initiative to "eat the grass". Therefore, in addition to calmly judging what is going on between your husband and her, you should also be vigilant. Of course, there's no need to be too nervous and jealous, nor to intervene forcefully. If it's a hard nut to crack, it can make him and her more likely to have a desire to talk under his rebellious mentality. You can generously tell him that if you really want to be friends, you should keep in touch openly and ask him to take you to get together with that ex girlfriend when he's free. Since they're both friends, what's wrong, You can also show off your love in front of your husband's ex girlfriend, so that her heart will die completely. Slowly, her curiosity will fade and her interest will no longer be disturbed.
