Post Date April, 15 2023
It is a common concern for every woman to learn that their spouse has a lover outside. How to solve the problem of extramarital affairs with spouses in order to minimize losses is a knowledge that everyone needs to master. It is precisely because some people do not master this knowledge that their marriage, which could have been salvaged, develops into an irreversible state.
Peng Wen encountered such a problem a while ago. She freely fell in love and got married with her lover. After more than a year of marriage, the two of them had a very happy life. In addition to doing a good job, they would cook and clean together every night, and their sexual life was also very harmonious. Two years after marriage, Peng Wen gave birth to a lovely daughter. From then on, he devoted all his energy to her daughter and had no other thoughts to accompany her husband to movies or outings. He also had no time to chat with him and gradually lost interest in sexual life. Even if I occasionally agree to my husband's request, I just have to face it hard.
This year, the child is already 2 years old and very likable. However, her husband came in late and sometimes went out on Sundays. When asked, she said she had to work overtime due to her busy schedule. Two weeks ago, a woman called Peng Wen and asked her to know the current situation and give her husband over. Faced with the provocation of a third party, Peng Wen told her husband the truth, and he admitted to having an extramarital affair. After the truth was confirmed, Peng Wen did not fight and argue like other women, but chose to think calmly.
Although there were thousands of angry words in Peng Wen's heart that he couldn't swallow, he still didn't argue with his husband in the end. She first thought that her young daughter needed a father, and she could not become a failure in marriage. After a struggle, Peng Wen decided to face the problem calmly. Life is still the same as before, but she pays more attention to her image, often dressing up beautifully, and even enrolled in fitness and music classes to improve her taste and temperament. Seeing that his wife always had a different feeling, even more feminine than before, the husband naturally returned to Peng Wen's side.
Face your spouse's extramarital affairs calmly and rationally
In extramarital affairs, we often unconsciously bias Libra towards the original partner and understand their conflicting emotions. But it's useless for everyone to sympathize with the original partner. The key to saving the family is still to rely on the original partner themselves. When facing the provocation of a third party, the first thing to do is to calm down and face this reality rationally. Adopting methods such as shouting, scolding, and hitting is not helpful and not conducive to solving the problem. Instead, it will force the cheating spouse to completely lose their dignity, generate the idea of breaking the rules, and the marital relationship will further deteriorate, to the point of uncontrollable chaos.
Spend more time caring for your significant other
Like Peng Wen in the story, after giving birth, almost all of his energy was given to his daughter, and he rarely communicated with his husband. He had no time to go on outings or watch movies with him, and even lost interest in sexual life between husband and wife, either refusing or perfunctory. It should be noted that if a person cannot feel love in their marital life, they will feel very depressed and lonely, inevitably generating a call for love, which provides conditions for extramarital love. So, couples should pay attention to emotional development, help each other, strengthen communication, and jointly prevent the occurrence of extramarital affairs.
