Buying a house before marriage caused a stir, and our fianc é e did something to put a red light on our relationship
The year I was admitted to college, my mother fell ill and passed away. I cried uncontrollably, and my father advised me to change my sorrows. Seeing my father's old face and tearful eyes, I swore to be filial to him and never let him suffer.
Father has no knowledge, and his family's income comes from farming. In his spare time, he works as a laborer on the construction site. Whenever he has work to do, he will cherish it very much. I feel pain in my eyes and study hard. After graduation, I found a job in my corresponding major and worked hard, which was appreciated by my leaders. Three years later, I was promoted to become a manager with an annual salary of approximately 200000 yuan. During this period, I dated a girlfriend who got along well with their personalities and had plans to get married.
My father has always wanted me to get married and start a business. I brought my girlfriend home, and he cried with joy. My girlfriend is quite good and I don't think my family is from the countryside. It was very filial to meet my father and I bought him many gifts. My father called the parents of the female partner, arranged a meeting, and helped us hold the engagement ceremony. I told her about my plan to buy a house before marriage, and she was very excited. However, working outside and buying a house is a very luxurious thing. Fortunately, in recent years, I have been frugal and have saved some savings. I can still make a down payment for a smaller one.
When buying a house, there was a disturbance. The house price is changing day by day, and it's a crazy purchase. When I was still hesitating, someone else had already bought it. I finally chose an acceptable price, but hesitated due to a difference of 50000 yuan. I'm worried about being bought by someone else, so I paid a deposit and went back to discuss with my girlfriend. I originally planned to borrow her money first and repay her later. But her words surprised me. She said, "With you, it seems that you haven't given your father enough money to spend. He can't spend much alone. Besides, he hasn't been idle in the past few years, so he must have some savings. It's the same if you ask him to take it out first and give it to him again in the future
I don't agree. That's the money I owe my father for his retirement, and I can't even ask for his hard work. But she secretly told my father about my difficulties behind my back. When I saw my father put the wrinkled storage in my hand, I hated my girlfriend to the bone. Dad said that as long as I live well, he can save this money for me sooner or later. I was holding the money my father gave me and preparing to talk to my girlfriend, but I heard her call her mother saying, "Mom, it's still Jiang Lao's hot, the old man really has savings, you're so wise.
I stood outside the door, clenching my fists in anger. When I pushed the door open, she was so scared that the phone fell to the ground, clearly showing a guilty conscience. She rushed over to explain to me, and I pushed her away. Such a woman with a different appearance is too scary. I proposed a breakup, but she refused, but I couldn't accept her calculated behavior. To do such a thing for the sake of so-called money. If we get married in the future, will she be good to my father? I have no confidence in my heart! I proposed to withdraw, but my girlfriend refused, and my father didn't understand. I couldn't speak up and explain to him, looking at his sad face, I really don't know what to do?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
You have put in a lot of effort for your family and for your own father. You are sad because of your fianc é e's behavior, which has disappointed you too much. In order to buy a house, you do not pay out of your own pocket, and you work with your mother to use your father's money. This behavior is truly shameful!
She doesn't understand you, but she wants to put so much pressure on your family. Personally, I think you should re-examine your relationship. Father is angry because he only saw the good side of your girlfriend. If he knew the truth, it would be more of a disappointment. I suggest that you learn about it for a period of time, after all, marriage is a lifelong matter and cannot be so hasty.