Breaking into my husband's infidelity with someone else, in order to retaliate for my infidelity, I didn't return home overnight. Now that he mentioned divorce, I regret it

From childhood to adulthood, my personality has been very outgoing, with many friends, good popularity, and a superior family background. I have never worried about money. Everything has changed since I met my current husband. Many girls, after being in love, begin to become sentimental and say that girls in love are the silliest, and I am no exception.

My husband met me in my senior year. His family is from a rural area, and the children of poor families have long been the masters of the family. He works part-time while attending school, but his grades do not fall behind. He is indispensable for scholarships every year. "I was moved by his persistence, and I let go of my reserve and took the initiative to express myself to him.". My sincerity moved him, and like many love stories, we had a good start. After a sweet love affair, we reached the age of marriage.

My parents love me very much and don't want me to suffer with him in the future. My mother said that it's better to marry a good woman than to have a good birth. Although my family has good conditions, it's me and him who will lead the life in the future. With his current situation, struggling for ten years may not be able to stand firm. Mom's words are reasonable, but my affection for him is already in love with the bone marrow. Therefore, no matter how much they hinder me, I insist on marrying him, and my parents can't help it. Entering marriage, I realized that love and marriage are two different things.

In the third year of my marriage, I became pregnant. Like many women, I am waiting with joy for the arrival of this little life. For the first time as a father, my husband was also excited. He dared not touch me every night when he slept, for fear of touching the baby in his belly. As the child grew older, my mood became increasingly unstable, and I was inexplicably angry and unable to control myself. Unconsciously, I found that he was always hiding from me, getting late from work, returning home with his eyes focused on his phone, and answering the phone was mysterious. The heavier my body became, the more tired I became, and I couldn't pay attention to his changes.

"He's getting more and more aggressive. Near the time of production, my mother accompanies me throughout the entire journey, but he's on a business trip outside of town.". The day before production, I called him and turned off the phone. "I was angry and angry, and I had a foetus, so I pushed into the delivery room early that night.". "I don't know how long I've been inside. After giving birth to the baby, I don't even have the strength to take a look at it, and I feel drowsy. When I wake up, he's beside me, and I feel a little comforted.". During the confinement period, he performed fairly well, serving me to eat and drink, and taking care of my baby.

"I relaxed my vigilance against him. When my baby was one year old, I accidentally flipped through his mobile phone and saw him and a woman dressed in sexy clothes taking self photos while traveling. I took a closer look at the time of the photo shoot, which was the days when I gave birth to the baby and he was on a business trip.". "I couldn't sit still, so I went straight to him for a showdown. My violent temper made him very nervous. I went straight to the showdown: For the vice president position of the company, he fell in love with the company's female boss, who requested to accompany her on a trip. The photo was taken by the female boss using his mobile phone, and he forgot to delete it.".

After listening to him, I went crazy and slapped him in the face. I have already prepared to share weal and woe with him, but he betrayed me for fame and fortune. I've thought about divorce, but I can't swallow it. After he confessed to cheating, he took the initiative to break up with a third party. "But I couldn't let it go. I thought of a thousand ways to make him regret it. Finally, I chose an extreme way to vent.".

"I gave my child to my mother to take care of. I spent all day shopping, traveling, and going to bars, squandering his hard earned money. He dared not speak up and let me vent.". "I was drunk that day, and a man accosted me. I mistakenly regarded him as my husband. That night, I did something I shouldn't have done, and in the same way, I retaliated against him.". He quickly learned about it and cursed me like a crazy person, saying that he had given up his position and returned to his family, and I would still torture him like this.

After a week of cold war, he filed for a divorce. After three years of marriage, he voluntarily gave up. He didn't want anything in the family, just children. "I was dumbfounded. I didn't expect him to mention divorce first. I divorced him. Why can't he be the only one who can betray me? I can't.". His answer is simple. He is for fame and family, but I am still trying to revenge him and make him suffer. My goal has been achieved, and it is time for us to end our relationship. I regret it and don't want a divorce. What should I do?

reply:

Marriage and love are really two different concepts. In love, there are only two of you, and marriage involves two families. "Your childhood family is superior and you don't lack money. What you need is the love and care of your family, as well as emotional comfort. However, due to the influence of family conditions, he becomes eager for quick success and instant benefits. Therefore, when opportunities are presented to him, he does not hesitate to exchange them with his own body. Such a man without a moral bottom line and a sense of responsibility is truly disappointing.".

"His showdown, sincere apology, and recognition of his mistake, he abandoned his position and left it to your disposal. His attitude was also correct.". "However, your method is extreme. You can use money to vent your dissatisfaction, but not enough to use your body. In this way, even if you are the right person, this way gives him the feeling that you are frivolous and not self loving. However, you are the right person, but you are caught by him.".

It is recommended to communicate well and open your hearts to each other. You already have your own children, and if you don't have feelings anymore, you can pat them and scatter them; But this kind of angry solution to the problem is bound to regret in the future. Calm down and analyze the problem with marriage. The couple share their thoughts and are making the next step.