Post Date December, 03 2023
Su Qin once said, "Anyone who leaves you is not a sudden decision. The heart gradually turns cold, the leaves gradually turn yellow, and the story slowly ends." Therefore, if your boyfriend starts to run away from you, but you still love him and want to continue this relationship, you need to start reviewing and changing yourself, otherwise it is difficult to save his heart.
Firstly, you need to know where your boyfriend can't bear it anymore. Calm down, think carefully, analyze your relationship, think about when it started to decline, and then ask yourself if the main reason for the decline is yourself. Are you willing to work hard to restore it? Remember, only by understanding reflection and change can you possibly restore this relationship that you find difficult to part with.
Secondly, give the other party time to breathe. During this period, try not to put pressure on the other party, contact them less, and no matter how much you miss them, don't visit them. If you haven't regained your composure, don't meet them easily. You also need to think carefully about whether you relied too much on him in the past, which made him tired and made him want to escape this emotional pattern.
Good girl, if you want to recover, don't rush. Spend 3 weeks to calm both parties down, and then it's time for you to meet and repair. During this period, if your ex boyfriend contacts you, please do not immediately return to your previous state, but respond with a slightly polite and distant tone. Don't say too much, wait until a certain time, and gradually regain enthusiasm and start changing yourself.
Once again, if a new relationship is established, at the beginning, communication with the other party should be primarily through phone calls rather than text messages. Sometimes, it is difficult to grasp the tone and state of the other party in a text message, especially when both parties establish a new connection, which can be sensitive. When it is difficult to clarify, it is easy to think recklessly and lead to misunderstandings.
The best way is to leave a voice message to tell him, straightforward and simple. For example, if you make a bento and deliver it at noon, let him know that you are thinking about him. If he answers your phone call, you must show sincerity and enthusiasm, and end the conversation with a brief expression. Don't be too coquettish and make him gradually feel your change.
Then, appropriately showcase your figure to him. After meeting once or twice, the once familiar physical attraction will gradually be regained. Perhaps after a period of calmness, you haven't kissed or hugged for too long. You miss his embrace very much, but it's not recommended to choose sex directly after the relationship recovers slightly.
The reason is that men all like a sense of chase, and if they are too easy to get hooked, they will lose patience quickly. At this point, you need to hang onto the big fish with a long line. The more you move from far to near, the harder it is for them to get hold of it, and the more they want you. But it's also important to stop until it's enough. You can't just enjoy being chased. When he gets you, give him your best love, make him satisfied, and have a sense of happiness.
Finally, have a good mindset. The key to successfully retrieving a boyfriend lies in the way and mindset. People are all emotional animals, and you used to be the person who knows them the best. How could you not know what kind of you they truly love and what kind of you they are tired of? Even if you don't directly say it, you can still have some understanding of some small expressions and dialogues in daily life.
You need to face the past with enough composure, and carefully reflect and compromise. Many times, we subconsciously know where we are wrong, but we are unwilling to admit and face it. Even when the other party points it out directly, we still make excuses for ourselves without reason.
You should know that when you plan to recover, you indirectly choose to compromise. Moreover, your appropriate compromise is also the foundation and a good start for your relationship to continue moving forward, abandoning some of the small wills of the past. Venus once said, "Women should not be more willful than their own beauty, otherwise you will lose very miserably." Put aside your small temper, learn to understand, and give yourself encouragement, Strive to turn the situation around and restore love in a positive mindset.
Amidst millions of people, it is not easy to get to know each other. It is because of love that we unite, because of love that we argue, because of love that we compromise, and because of love that we merge. This is a process of grinding from gravel to pearls. If we persist, we can achieve a happy marriage. If we cannot persist, it may be a lifelong regret. If you love him and don't want to lose him, make appropriate changes for him, retrieve his love, and your own happiness.
