My husband and I have been married for four years, and my mother-in-law is always meddling and mixing in blindly.
She has to take care of everything we do. We meet every week and stay at their house on Saturdays and Sundays. I found out that she is very picky and always eavesdrops on what we're saying in the living room when there's nothing to do. I didn't even know before, but she always misses it herself. For example, when we talk about buying clothes indoors, we'll leave the bedroom and see her in the living room saying, 'Don't always buy clothes, money is not easy to earn.'.
She is also particularly fond of meddling in our private affairs. Always give condoms without any worries. Push open the door and tell his son, 'We're done, there's more left.'. He has been coughing all these days, and she has been cursing loudly, saying, 'Why don't you pay attention to your own health? You think doing that all the time is good for your own health. You don't even pay attention to your own health, what's the use of worrying!' It's full of curses! I'm sorry to say it, but we really didn't do anything.
I asked him what this meant, and he said that his mother was just like this. He had been used to it, and asked me not to take it to heart. But can I feel better? It was a good week. He told me that I could not go to his house this week. I asked why. He said that he and his mother had quarreled about it, and that he would not let me go this week. I'm so angry, I don't want to go there, I also have self-esteem!!!
Excuse me, what's his mother's mentality? Should I continue? anonymous
Break up? But you need to know that no matter what man you are looking for, as long as he has a mother, you will more or less encounter this kind of thing. How many times have you been divided if you don't like it?
Every family is the same - when a girlfriend has objections to their mother, every man will calm down and say, 'I got used to it, don't take it to heart.'. Really, every man says it like this, even using the same sentence of condemnation. This does not mean that they are unreasonable or disrespectful towards you, but they are emotionally unwilling to talk about their mother, especially in front of you.
His mother is a lover, and each mother is the same, but to varying degrees. Similarly, they also somewhat reject their daughter-in-law and believe that their son has been taken away - no wonder she can freely enter her son's room and manage his affairs before you appear. But as soon as you appeared, some of her rights were taken away. She is unhappy, always wanting to regain this part of power, always wanting to control you, always wanting to listen to you, this is very normal. However, some mothers can control themselves, while your boyfriend's mother cannot control herself.