Many people believe that after divorce, the problem disappears, as if there is no need or need to undergo marital treatment together. Hu Chiyi believes that this view is incorrect because we all come from the past, and the impact of past marriages may be brought into new relationships. If we do not have our own understanding of the previous marriage model, then after entering a new relationship, it is likely to make the same mistakes and have the same outcome.
Xiao Chen hopes to reunite with his female guest and ex-wife, Xiao Dai. His true feelings are sentimental and romantic, which moved the audience. However, Xiao Dai tearfully and resolutely said "No", and the scene of reuniting after breaking the mirror was not staged. According to the analysis of the psychological supervisor of the Chinese Psychological Association, the main reason for Xiao Chen's marriage failure is his suspicious and persistent personality, which indicates that he needs to make adjustments in his interpersonal relationship adaptation to avoid psychological problems damaging his marriage health.
His paranoia caused many misunderstandings
"Xiao Chen and Xiao Dai fell in love in college, and their marriage for more than five years came to an end last year. Xiao Chen first reviewed his mistakes: 'We were originally very happy and sweet, but we were relatively stingy and suspicious, causing many misunderstandings and causing her a lot of grievances. Standing here today, I really want to tell her: I'm sorry, I let you down.'"
Although the inner waves of the tearful young generation fluctuated, But in a calm tone: "If I only knew you today, I would be very moved and wouldn't hesitate to go with you. But I know you too well, and you've given me a lot of surprises or romances like this. After each breakup, you can come up with some ways to impress me and make me turn around. Every time, it's different, and I always turn around because of this emotion. I know very well that even if I go with you today, one month, half a year, or a year later, we will return to the past, so "I decided never to look back."
"Xiao Chen pleaded for himself: 'I think a boy who becomes a man must go through some things. After going through this one...' His words were interrupted by Xiao Dai, 'Don't say' after going through this one '. You have said these words no less than 20 times,' This time I really realized ',' What will happen? '"
Xiaochen reluctantly asked, "Do you really feel the same as before when I stand here in front of so many people? Do you know what's different about me today from yesterday?" Xiaodai said, "I don't want to know. Love is useless. I'm not suitable for you, nor are you suitable for me."
Being too suspicious can be a pathological condition
Xiao Chen believes that his marriage and love for more than five years ended in divorce because his personality was too sensitive and suspicious, causing many misunderstandings in his relationship with Xiao Dai and causing a lot of harm to the other party.
Hu Chiyi pointed out that a sensitive personality is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, there are many professions that benefit from sensitive traits, such as detective work and criminal investigation work, which can detect suspicious clues more carefully than others; However, if you are too sensitive and suspicious, it may be a pathological state. If it occurs in interpersonal relationships, it can bring friction and conflict to interpersonal relationships, leading to social adaptation problems. As Xiao Chen realized, his overly suspicious and sensitive personality directly affected his marriage relationship.
However, Xiao Chen's awareness of his own problems indicates that this condition is not very serious and may be changed through marital therapy or other psychological treatment.