Post Date December, 03 2023
Most men adhere to the philosophy of 'silence is like gold' in their lives. Generally speaking, a man's sudden silence is usually due to trauma or pressure, and he wants to solve the problem alone. To understand the reason for a man's silence, you need to learn to determine what he is thinking and which way to rescue him based on his words and actions, the scene he is in, as well as his expression and state when he is silent.
The Meaning of Men's Silent Psychology:
Protest rambling
Women like to establish and strengthen relationships through conversation, while at home they like to show their leadership status and show concern for men through gossip. Men don't think so. No matter how eloquent and articulate they are before marriage, married men are more willing to directly express their specific wishes, such as "I want to go out to dinner with you tonight", "I want to rest", and "I need a meeting".
However, women can't bear it anymore. The more men behave like this, the more women have something to say. Many times, due to women's chatter, the noisy sky at home and outside is no different. Men often appear more rational than women at this time, and when faced with women's gossip, they will not directly refute it - that is undoubtedly throwing a bomb at home; He wouldn't scold roughly either - it would undoubtedly be a trapped animal fighting with half the effort.
Many men are accustomed to choosing silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts, and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they intentionally use silence to maintain a distance between each other, which can cause women to feel particularly hurt. Women often say 'they have no emotions, they are simply cold blooded', which is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their emotions and admiration with their hearts. The more a woman talks, the farther away a man will be from you. Although he is silent, a "protective wall" has been erected in his heart.
Adjusting the body and mind
Boys have received "backbone" education from a young age, such as conquering the world, standing tall, and taking responsibility. When they grow up, no matter how helpless exhaustion they face, how difficult setbacks they face, how cruel blows they face, how heavy a burden they bear, how enormous a pressure they face... They cannot be released through crying, washed away through tears, or vented through confidences like women.
The only thing they can do is remain silent. Reflect in silence, recuperate in silence, gather momentum in silence, lick wounds in silence.
Therefore, when a man drags his heavy footsteps back home, sits on the sofa without saying a word, or turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not dictate, make trouble, fantasize, or even ask for advice. Perhaps he has just finished a conversation with a client and is exhausted, or he is facing setbacks in his life and career, feeling hurt, exhausted, and exhausted. At this moment, his silence was for the purpose of recuperation, and he gained new life in silence. At this point, you might as well give him an hour to say "goodbye" to his daytime work completely, and he may show amazing interest in any of your questions afterwards.
A special reminder here is that when a man is physically and mentally tired, if he is still interested in watching TV, do not turn off the TV while he is watching news broadcasts, and then say with concern, "If you are tired, rest early. What else are you watching TV?" It should be noted that career oriented men are mostly concerned about politics, and your "care and care" can only backfire. But you can insert some comfort words in the gaps of the advertising program.
How to deal with men's silence?
Help him by asking him how he feels
When a man is silent, women feel afraid, they don't know what happened. A woman's nature prompts her to care about the person she loves. She carefully asks him if he is uncomfortable there, why he is unhappy, what happened at work, and so on. But the result of doing so does not help men solve their problems. What he most needs is a quiet moment alone, and he doesn't want women constantly "nagging" there. At this point, women's kindness often fails to be rewarded. So the wisest way is not to ask him about his feelings.
Don't object to his need for solitude
Women in marriage are quite sensitive. They hope that men can maintain the warmth of love and be "heart to heart" and "shadow to shadow" with them. When men are silent and want to be alone, women feel greatly hurt. Therefore, most women will oppose this demand from men. But if a woman truly wants to help a man, please do not oppose his request, as this is a normal need for men.
Don't worry about him or always being with him
When a man is silent, a woman feels obligated to help him. When men are unable to honestly express their problems, women tend to take them seriously. She feels very worried about him, not only showing meticulous care in life, but also being inseparable from him. She hopes to be by his side when a man needs help. But the result of women doing so may hinder men's normal way of dealing with problems. Some men feel guilty about their beloved wives' love and return to their women's side. But this is not conducive to solving the problem, and soon women will discover that men are beginning to remain silent again. Generally speaking, women's intervention will prolong the time for men to solve problems. Therefore, women should not overly worry about men when they are silent, believing that they will handle everything properly.
If a man can leave a quiet and contemplative space, he will gradually forget and shift unhappy things away.
