Post Date April, 15 2023
More and more women are becoming increasingly confused about how developed his language cells used to be, whether at the stage of passionate love or at the time of his first marriage. An hour ago, he saw you eloquently talking about love, and an hour later, he saw you again, still gushing about love; If a leaf falls from your head, it will be filled with emotion and voice like a poem; "It's good to have a family," you exclaim innocently, and he'll talk to you for hours... Now, what's the matter? "? After only a few years of marriage, he has become a "stuffy pot".
Some people say that men are action oriented animals. So, what exactly does it mean behind a man's silence?
Mark, a British sociologist, has found that men speak half as much as women every day.
However, men are also mostly used in their circle of friends and work, while chatting and communicating with their loved ones may take less than 15 minutes per day and use no more than 10% of the words.
In fact, men have many methods of silence, and each can be the beginning of a heart-to-heart spiritual dialogue. The premise is that you need to know what they really want to say, and then take corresponding countermeasures.
Use silence to protest against gossip
Women like to establish and strengthen relationships through conversation, while at home they like to show their leadership and concern for men through gossip. Men don't think so. No matter how eloquent and articulate they are before marriage, married men are more willing to directly express their specific wishes, such as "I want to go out for dinner with you tonight", "I want to rest", and "I need a meeting.".
However, women can't stand it anymore. The more men do this, the more women have something to say. Many times, due to women's chatter, the noisy sky at home and outside is no different. Men often appear more rational than women at this time, and when faced with women's chatter, they will not directly refute it - it is undoubtedly a bomb dropped at home; "He won't yell rudely either - it's definitely a trapped animal that gets twice the result with half the effort.". Many men are accustomed to choosing silence. On the one hand, they use silence to express their emotions, thoughts, and attitudes at the time, and on the other hand, they deliberately use silence to maintain a distance from each other. Women can feel particularly hurt by this. In response, women often say, "They have no feelings, they are simply cold blooded." This is actually a misunderstanding. Married men are more accustomed to communicating their emotions and admiration with their hearts. The more a woman chats, the farther away a man will be from you. Although he is silent, he has erected a "protective wall" in his heart.
Use silence to regulate the body and mind
Boys have received "backbone" education from an early age, such as conquering the world, standing up to the sky, and assuming responsibility. When they grow up, no matter how helpless fatigue, how difficult setbacks, how cruel blows, how heavy burdens, and how great pressures they face, they cannot, like women, vent themselves through tears, or vent themselves through confidences. The only thing they can do is silence. Reflect in silence, recuperate in silence, gather momentum in silence, lick wounds in silence.
Therefore, when a man trudges home, sits on the sofa without saying a word, or turns a deaf ear to your words, you must not dictate, make trouble, fantasize, or even ask for instructions. Perhaps he has just finished a conversation with a client and is exhausted, or is facing a life and career setback, feeling hurt, sleepy, and tired. At this moment, his silence is for recuperation, and he is reborn in silence. At this point, you might as well give him an hour to say "goodbye" to his day job thoroughly, after which he may show amazing interest in any of your questions.
A special reminder here is that when a man is physically and mentally tired, if he is still interested in watching TV, don't turn off the TV while he is watching news broadcasts, and then say with concern, "If you're tired, take an early break. What else do you watch TV?" Note that career oriented men are mostly concerned about politics, and your "caring and caring" can only backfire. But you can insert a bit of comfort in the gap between advertising programs.
Use silence to strategize
You often find the man you know, talking and laughing, suddenly silent; It was hot and noisy at home, but he sat on the sofa in a daze; You enthusiastically threw a string of words at him, and he was unconscious. In fact, at this moment, silence and daze are just the outward expression of a man. Perhaps he is thinking of some strange idea, or thinking about some strange question, or something has triggered his inspiration. When he entered a state of silent contemplation, it was a state similar to "closed cultivation". "They do not want anyone to pull him out of his state of contemplation, let alone someone to interrupt or disrupt him in silence to" cultivate. "". If at this point, you can't help being curious, impulsive, or concerned, and ask him questions like this or that, for example, what are you thinking about, let me help you advise you? Or do you have anything to say? Did you hear my question? It's like asking for trouble. In the eyes of men, all concerned, thoughtful, well-intentioned, and curious questions at this time are like buzzing flies, disturbing the peace and quiet of people. At this point, you might as well be a silent attendant. The relaxed atmosphere you provide at the right time will not only greatly shorten his silence time, but also make him grateful to you.
Treasure privacy with silence
Sometimes, men will make up a lie in an emergency, and sometimes they will try their best to hide something, such as drinking a few bottles of beer the night before yesterday, having an affair on a business trip, just getting an extra bonus, and so on. The assumption of men is that as long as they don't say it and women don't realize it, everything will be very simple. Sometimes, a man's silence is another kind of concealment. He may think that a woman is too autocratic, interfering with his freedom and rights, and she may even authoritatively arrange his daily life. Therefore, in order to prevent a woman from breaking the casserole and asking the truth, and to prevent her from transparently controlling and supervising him, he chose to remain silent. Without the slightest trace of pursuit, his world would be much quieter.
In the communication between husband and wife, if there are any taboo issues, there is a bit more possibility of emotional crisis between them. For example, when you repeatedly discuss recent issues of sexual desire, emotional apathy, loyalty, bonuses, and so on with him, he feels like a mirror in his heart. He knows that too much talk can lead to too much loss, but he knows better not to express this aversion, let alone reveal it in his expression. Therefore, he uses silence to prevent accidents.
Men are always very careful and try to avoid exposing their weaknesses, especially in crisis situations, where men are extremely self enclosed. If women nag at this time, men will be even more angry. For sensitive topics such as past relationships and sex, men tend to be silent out of goodwill, because men also need a sense of security, hope for security, and dream of displaying their most perfect selves in front of women.
At the same time, male psychology researchers have pointed out that men's world is full of competition, which requires distance, masks, and calculations. The survival of men is faced with cruel challenges that women cannot imagine, and loneliness is inevitable. Women feel that there must be many secrets hidden in a man's heart, so curiosity continues to advance the depth of exploration.
But to make a man open his heart when he is silent, the first step is to give him a sense of security that you will not take advantage of his weaknesses at any time. You can use the passion of a woman to comfort him. You can also listen quietly to his narration, evaluate as objectively as possible, and work with him to find solutions.
In fact, a man always has a potential tendency to be arrogant. As long as he has a sufficient audience, he will appear extremely charming, talkative, and full of interest. So, if you want to soften each other's frozen atmosphere, you can consider going to a bar or tea house with him. Because there, he can find the public that excites him. "Or do something with someone else, such as watching TV or shopping together. When he discovers that his position is under threat, he will definitely come to you to break the deadlock.".
