Post Date December, 03 2023
It is said that women are changeable, but in fact, men's hearts are more like sea-bottom needles, which women cannot understand. Yesterday, I was still very close to each other, but today it is very likely to stay away.
Many girls have said that after a night's party, women are still immersed in love, but men can come for three days, a week, or even half a month without any news. This is a problem that many girls often encounter when they are in love. Why can men be so hot and cold?
Some experts said that although men are experiencing intimacy through sex, in essence, they are afraid of intimacy. Men can't bear women's desire for intimacy, so once they find that the relationship has become intimate, they will retreat. Their intimate conflicts are particularly serious, and they both desire and fear intimacy. I feel depressed together and lonely alone. This is the root of the problem - male anxiety.
1. The psychology is very different before and after marriage
When in love, in order to pursue happiness, men do everything. They will tell some white lies, do something they dare not do before, and follow their girlfriend's advice. They try to shape themselves into a perfect man in women's hearts. They are quite cooperative in changing themselves.
After marriage, men gradually return to the track of maintaining their own inertia. He no longer listens to his wife, but often goes in one ear and out the other, and no longer changes himself for the sake of the other. He thinks that it is not his original self, and the male chauvinism in his heart makes them feel that only his wife listens to his own, how can he listen to women's!
The sudden change of men makes women have no choice but to feel that men have changed their minds and no longer love themselves. This is because women do not realize that the man in love is the sheep in wolf's clothing, and the man after marriage is the most real himself. If you don't get it, you will try hard to pursue it. If you get it, you will no longer be nervous. The only way to keep him interested in you is to let him lose you!
2. Men have different ways of owning each other
Men and women have each other in different ways. Men are the "maintain the status quo" faction, and their biggest requirements are "don't bother me" and "don't make trouble". Many women have a concept of their ideal man in mind, but they don't really want to find him, but they want to find a man with high "plasticity" and can be trained in that direction.
In line with the concept of jointly managing marriage, men should meet women's needs to some extent. Maybe you can accept it when you are in love, but you are not so flexible after marriage. During the period of love and early marriage, a person is easier to accept "cultivation and shaping". But how long can this situation last? You should know that a person cannot be himself, but must be a model of "cultivating and shaping". In the long run, it is not only tiring, but also painful. Men need a private plot where they can make a clay ball. On the premise of cooperating with women, this private plot is easier to keep.
