Post Date December, 03 2023
First, the dislocation of sensibility and rationality
Most women are emotional before marriage, but gradually become rational after marriage. But it is precisely this pre marital sensibility that leaves hidden dangers in married life, and at the same time, rationality after marriage can make marital disputes continue.
It is often said that one should polish one's eyes before marriage and cover them after marriage. In fact, there is a certain truth in this sentence, and its true meaning lies in telling women not to trust men's rhetoric before marriage, and not to be confused by love. At this time, it is necessary to think rationally and consider as much reality as possible, so as to make married life less regrettable.
After marriage, women have learned to think rationally through the tuition fees of their youth and the teaching of men's words and deeds. They no longer believe men's words lightly. They like to track men's whereabouts and are used to finding logical loopholes in every word and deed of a man Even if a man looks at a woman a bit more, she will use reason to analyze it... But in fact, they are wrong. There are many practical cases that tell us that a woman's happiness after marriage cannot be separated from "silly" sensibility. A woman can only have a sense of happiness if she realizes emotionally that her husband loves her very much, that she is beautiful and charming. In fact, there is no truly perfect happiness in the world. Marriage itself means compromise, and the highest level of compromise is sensibility and confusion. So if only women could reverse their pre marital emotional and post marital rationality. Of course, this is only relative, and it also requires the cooperation of men, because in front of a clumsy man, a woman can never be emotionally aroused. Even if there is, it is also a perceptual assumption that is not conducive to marriage.
Second, the dislocation between the husband's family and the mother's family
If women fall in love with a man, they will steal things from home and give them to him. Mother has made a total of 30 dumplings, and she would like to send them all to him for eating. When getting married, she always tries to help a man persuade his family to reduce the gift money and tell their parents how good this man is. After getting married, my husband became unhappy when he took an extra 100 yuan to give to his wife, while taking 1000 yuan each time was still too little. During holidays, I went to my husband's house and quarrelled for two days, but I often stayed at my mother's house for a week without too long.
In fact, this is really wrong. Before marriage, you were a mother's family. Regardless of your interests and emotions, you had to take care of your mother's family and give your entire heart to a man who actually had nothing to do with you. What a fool it would be. In this way, it is not that the sky is always blue without cannibalism, without understanding the interests of men and women, but that there are really too many women who have paid a lot of tuition fees on this issue; Let's talk about marriage again. After marriage, you are naturally a mother-in-law's family. We don't need to say what a new era we are in, because the secular society always exists. No matter from the registered residence system, traditional concepts and laws, women are mostly mother-in-law's family after marriage. We can understand women's "family caring" and "childlike love", but these can only be put in mind, or at most equal to the mother-in-law's family, If you insist on putting your family in the very obvious first place, how shameful is a man's face and emotions?
Third, the mismatch between dressing up and not dressing up
We all know that women in love are the most beautiful. Although the main reason for being beautiful is their mood, it is inseparable from their love of dressing up. Every time they go on a date, they spend a lot of time dressing up, struggling about which clothes to wear This subjective motivation to dress up has become another source of their beauty and charm. However, after marriage, they became different. They wanted to get married and have some money to save for a living. Therefore, their spiritual laziness and hard work in life quickly made them become a yellow faced woman.
To tell the truth, this transformation of women is really lacking in wisdom. Reasonably, before getting married, in a passionate relationship, a man is beautiful regardless of how he sees you, and he doesn't have to dress up too much to really love you or love you. "After getting married, it's different. He gets everything he wants and appreciates enough of the beauty he should appreciate. There is aesthetic fatigue both in terms of perspective and emotion. At this time, if a woman doesn't pay attention to dressing up, it's a very scary thing. On the one hand, a man won't easily tell you in order to show his superficial love for you, but on the other hand, he has less and less feelings for you.", "A woman is still intoxicated with happiness through" self sacrifice "until one day he clearly indicates that you have no attraction for her, but this time it is often too late.". Therefore, it is extremely wrong for a woman to neglect her dress after marriage. If she wants to choose not to dress before and after marriage, the editor believes that she would rather choose not to dress before marriage. Perhaps not dressing before marriage can even test whether she truly loves you, while not dressing after marriage is actually challenging the nature of men and animals. Always remember, don't believe men's lies that don't value women's appearance!
