Post Date April, 15 2023
Internationally, there are international conventions between countries that balance the relationship between them. Similarly, this method can also be applied in marital relationships to coordinate and balance the relationship between two people. We can call it the marital agreement or the quarrel agreement. Anyway, this is used when couples argue. The implementation of this convention will greatly reduce the consequences of your arguments.
The reason for the emergence of such conventions is that people nowadays are too self centered and do not pay much attention to the feelings of those around them when they are together as a couple, which greatly affects the quality of marriage.
Now let's take a look at the clauses in the marital agreement:
Clause 1: Not making noise in front of others
This is very important. At home, do not argue in front of your parents, relatives, children, and neighbors. This will make friends and family laugh, especially when arguing in front of your children. In public places, don't argue either. Firstly, one should not show off one's family shame, secondly, not make oneself too unattractive, and thirdly, give face to the other party. When giving face, one party can twist the other party's arm with their hands to indicate that they are giving face at this time.
Clause 2: Women should be more generous
In a couple's argument, no matter who is right or wrong, as long as the woman reconciles first and gently coaxs the man a few words, the man can immediately calm down. Otherwise, when the woman sees the man shouting, she can't help but cry. The woman shall not make trouble without reason, and the man has the right to remain silent until the woman no longer loses her temper.
Clause 3: Do not leave immediately
Falling out after a fight is not a good solution to the problem and is very irrational. If you really can't hold back, try not to leave the community. It is also not allowed to not bring a mobile phone, turn off the phone, or not answer the phone. Under no circumstances should the power be turned off. If the man finds the woman, he should embrace her affectionately, and the embrace posture should not be perfunctory. He should gently press the woman's head with the palm of one hand and not criticize her.
Clause 4: No smashing of objects
Some irritable people often use throwing things to vent their anger when arguing. Don't you think about how wasteful this is! If it really doesn't work, eat or smash the pillow. The man should eat more to prevent the woman from getting fat and feeling worse after eating more. The woman can use the man's card to buy more clothes to comfort the injured heart, and when appropriate, she can also buy one or two pairs of socks for the man.
Clause 5: No Noisy Overnight Racing
There is a saying that goes, a quarrel between a couple is a quarrel at the head of the bed and a quarrel at the end of the bed. There's nothing big between couples, so don't argue overnight. When sleeping at night, the man must take the initiative to hug the woman. The woman is angry and makes every effort to push the man not to give up, but it cannot exceed three times. If it exceeds three times, the man can choose to give up, but the next day, both parties cannot bring up this matter again. The man is not allowed to snore to prevent the woman from waking up from her beautiful dreams and causing further conflicts.
Clause 6: No Hanging Up
If two people are arguing over the phone, neither party can hang up, which is disrespectful behavior. If you hang up, call back immediately and apologize. If the woman hangs up during an argument, the man should try to call the woman within 1 minute. If the phone doesn't work, don't be angry. If you hang up repeatedly, but the woman should also give the man face. The number of times you hang up each time should not exceed 3, and if it exceeds 3, all responsibilities will be borne by the woman.
How much sorrow can a couple have, isn't it just some trivial matters? There's no need to be too grand, it hurts the relationship between the two and the harmony of the family.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
