A very interesting phenomenon is that men do not feel much when they travel or stay out for some reason. Once a woman goes out, she often "harbors evil thoughts". Although unlike women who deal with men, they call one after another, but they are also restless. People who can joke say this: The love between husband and wife is obvious, and the wife can't bear to leave for a night. Men are afraid of green hats.
In fact, from a psychological point of view, this is a "sense of insecurity" hidden in men's hearts. Let's call it "green hat phobia". This "instability" is to fear what happens to his wife behind his back.
Research shows that women trust their husbands more than men trust their wives. This is consistent with real life - men can drink and play mahjong all night long, and then coax women away, while men often do not like this to women.
I once saw a case where a couple announced the dissolution of their marriage after three years of marriage. The reason for the divorce was that the husband was extremely distrustful of his wife. As soon as the wife went out, the husband would check her underwear. If he found that there were too many secretions, he would dig into the bottom and chase after her. Having lived in a tense atmosphere of suspicion for a long time, the strings of marriage finally broke before people's nerves broke.
Sexual behavior is exclusive psychology
If you have sex, you will inevitably leave a large amount of secretions on your underwear. This husband's "virginity detection method" is straightforward, but he forgot that the increase of female lower body secretions is due to many aspects.
In addition to sexual activities, there are gynaecological diseases, intense physical exercise, and so on. "Secretion" has become a "substitute" for his distrust mentality, forming a psychological circle of "secretion"="cheating".
There is also a typical behavior of "suspicious wife" - showing a strong aversion to the men around his wife. Colleagues, classmates, friends and even relatives who are male and get along more frequently, especially those who have more opportunities to be mentioned by his wife, will be included in the "blacklist".
With this "blacklist" on his back, he became "green hat phobia". He spent his time studying and arranging the contact frequency, site and time between his wife and these "suspicious objects". He was in a high state of vigilance and vigilance for a long time. He always felt that "there was something like that", but he could not grasp the handle.
The extension of virgin complex
There are many reasons for the formation of this distrust, but there are no more than several types:
First, because of the "virgin complex", the wife was "suspicious" when she got married, or it was very clear that she was not her first lover
Second, remarried couples, both of whom have a history of marriage and have different degrees of "re love experience"
The third is the inferiority complex. This situation is usually caused by the extroverted personality of the woman, who is much more "romantic" than the man in her career and work. There is a phenomenon that women are stronger than men
The fourth is hearsay. I am troubled by the special examples around me. I heard that a woman has such experience, and I am always wary of her own people. Here, I say, these are unhealthy mentality.
As the saying goes, "heart disease needs heart medicine" and "cure the bell needs a person who tied the bell". Trust comes from the purity of the feelings of both parties, and also depends on the "calmness" of the individual's heart. There is a "hallucinatory" inference that you can refer to - you say there is it, you say there is no it, then why not infer it as no
The trainer of the zoo can still reach a tacit understanding with the beast. Why can't he have more trust with his legal spouse