After years of analysis of domestic cases of extramarital love, the conclusion shows that the main reasons for the formation of extramarital love are as follows:
1. Life is lonely and monotonous.
If the married life makes people feel disappointed and unsatisfied, many people will find other ways or incentives to satisfy and balance their psychology. For example, marriage makes people feel lonely and boring, and the couple lacks intimacy and cannot bring life fun to each other. At this time, the third party and extramarital love have the opportunity to take advantage of it. Especially for those couples who have been separated from each other for a long time, it is hard to avoid feeling lost and unbalanced when they see that other couples are in pairs and have a sweet love, so they are easy to find other "gentle villages".
Another situation is that the marriage life is too monotonous and lack of novelty. Every day is the same thing and the same life mode. At this time, feelings tend to become insipid and life is not fun. In this case, the novel stimulation of extramarital love is easier to highlight, catch people's hearts, and make their attachment unable to extricate themselves.
2. Emotional disharmony is the basis of marriage. If the feelings of husband and wife are disharmonious, it will easily lead to various problems in marriage.
If there is a long-term lack of communication and emotional discord between husband and wife, they will easily accept other temptations or seek other emotional consolation to seek emotional compensation.
3. The interests are not compatible.
Some couples are very good emotionally, but after a long time, they find that they have no common interests. For example, the wife likes dancing, but the husband only likes playing cards; The husband likes literature and art, but the wife is fond of fashion trends; The wife has lofty ideals, but the husband is content with the status quo; The husband worked hard, but the wife did not want to make progress. These differences in interests, hobbies and ambitions make the two people less and less have a common language, and the pace is also seriously inconsistent. If you meet a "bosom friend" outside at this time, it is easy to make people fall into extramarital love.
4. Sexual life is not harmonious.
This is also one of the main reasons for extramarital love. If marriage does not have a harmonious sexual life, it is impossible to maintain it. Even if the relationship between the two sides is good, how many people can live a life of "Platonic" love? At this time, extramarital love seems to have been unavoidable.
5. Like the new and hate the old.
Some people are very difficult to determine, especially in the emotional issues, it is easy to see that one loves another, and finally do not know who they love. If this happens before marriage, it may be justifiable, but once married, you should be responsible for your spouse and family. This idea of liking the new and hating the old, coupled with the unhappiness of married life, will change even if the person who marries him is the "favorite person".
Because the old lover highlights more shortcomings, while the new lover highlights more advantages. Comparing the advantages of others with the disadvantages of his lover, his lover is certainly much worse, and extramarital love is inevitable.
6. The negative impact of the media.
Many movies, TV plays, books, etc. have reflected the phenomenon of extramarital love, but the focus of their description is not necessarily the negative effects of extramarital love, or exaggerated the phenomenon of extramarital love of celebrities, which makes people feel strange. They also copy it in their own lives, resulting in many family and marriage problems.
Recognizing the above causes of extramarital love, let's look at the harm of extramarital love. First, it endangers your physical and mental health, causing serious mental pressure and unsolvable problems. The second is to endanger the physical and mental health of family members. Extramarital love is extremely traumatic to lovers and children. Third, it harms the society. Extramarital love has led to many conflicts, even caused many social problems, and increased the crime rate.
Therefore, facing up to the problem of extramarital love is what everyone in society and every family should do. In order to maintain the harmony, beauty and happiness of the family, we must take the other party as the center, take more consideration of everything for the other party, strengthen communication and understanding with the other party, make life more interesting, let both husband and wife be satisfied in marriage and find balance, so that we can remove the psychological barriers of both parties; Avoid extramarital love.
In addition, the whole society should vigorously promote the normal marriage order, condemn the extramarital love behavior, combat this unhealthy trend, make the parties realize the wrong nature of extramarital love and have a sense of guilt, so that there will be no breeding ground and growth ground for extramarital love.