Post Date April, 15 2023
I often hear many girls say, "If someone relies on me, I don't want to be strong either.". Or if I can, I don't want to be smart and independent. How good it would be if someone could rely on me If someone accompanies me, I don't want to show off Something like that. Most women feel that they don't really want to be smart, capable, and strong (pretending to be strong)... but they envy being such a tired woman. With their partner, they can have someone to rely on. Being a person who relies on each other and someone to help you handle everything and take care of everything you have is happiness.
In fact, at first glance, it sounds reasonable. When people feel lonely and cold, when they are frustrated and frustrated, they inevitably feel unhappy. If someone comes to rescue them and accompany them, they can stay away from misfortune. Especially for single people, when looking at someone else's happy relationship or marriage, there is even more such emotion.
But, on second thought, can finding a partner solve so many problems? If possible, can people who are in love and married be guaranteed to be happier? If so, why are there so many divorced and divorced people? Can finding a good partner solve all the problems in life?
People who are not independent cannot be a good partner
Slowly, you will find that there is a person who talks about love and puts the focus of their life on the other person, limiting and controlling their behavior (because they love you, they control you), or treating the restrictions on them as love. "Other things in life seem to be unimportant, working carelessly, alienating friends and family, and lacking their own social and interest interests. It seems like a person without progress in life, with the only focus on each other.".
So they tend to overwhelm each other, focus too much on making themselves feel less secure, and always have to stick together to prove love. Finally, unfortunately, they lose love, and find out what they have done in the past few years? Money has not been saved, work has not progressed, and even friends have moved away. So they lost their love, and they were even more unwilling.
"I have also met a girl who said that just crying can solve a problem, so if she can't do something or doesn't want to do it, she cries, and the boy helps her do it.". But over time, people can also get tired. If you don't give in a relationship and just want the other person to flatter you, you will eventually lose your balance.
Then you will find that people who are not independent enough will become drowning after talking about love. They will cling to the floating wood and cannot move forward. They also feel that love is the only one that can save their misfortunes.
Of course, dependence and companionship are the beautiful and sweet parts of a relationship, but if you attach too much importance to love and lose yourself, or because relying too much on the other person gives him too much pressure, two people become mutual drag and hold back, which is not healthy love either.
Is the other half responsible for your life?
However, I have also seen many people who actually place their happiness and life on love and partners. "They may feel unhappy, unhappy, unhappy, or complacent because the other person doesn't love them enough to give them a happy life.". "Even after falling in love or getting divorced, the overall unhappiness in life after that is attributed to the fact that the other person doesn't love him.".
However, others cannot always be responsible for your life. Even if you lose love or marriage, you should be even more responsible for your own life.
Former parents may have thought that as long as they married a man who was financially good and loved you, that would be happiness. However, in today's society, with such a high divorce rate, marriage management is not easy, and finding someone who seems to have good conditions is no longer a guarantee. Therefore, instead of focusing on the high-risk issue of marriage and meeting a good man, it's better to think about how to make sure that even if you don't meet a good partner, you can still live well on your own, and even if you encounter a bad partner, you can also turn your life around on your own.
Independence and companionship are a beautiful balance
Observing a relationship for a long time is not about who depends on whom, but rather that they are independent individuals who have the ability to be independent, and can complement and rely on each other in getting along, achieving a beautiful balance between independence and dependence.
Taking myself as an example, because I am a quite independent girl myself, after marriage, I also continue my work and develop my interests. Economic independence also gives me the dominant position in my life. Also because of my independence, I can provide help and support to my other half, so that he doesn't have to worry too much about me, so that he can work hard at work. Because I am convinced that I can take care of myself, so that I can take care of him and not become a burden on him.
"I often laugh and say, 'I know how to combine hard and soft. I want to be an independent and strong woman, and I am also a woman who knows how to play coquettish and have a soft figure. When accompanying each other, I know how to lower my body and bend my waist, but on the other side of myself, I am independent in thought, behavior, and economy.'". Therefore, I can achieve a happy balance between myself and getting along with my partner.
To put it simply, maintaining self independence, relying on each other in getting along, not losing oneself, but also giving strength to each other is the most wonderful balance.
The person who meets a good partner is also a good partner
Many people look at a happy partner and feel envious that she has met a good man. But to be honest, observing many happy combinations can actually have a good partner, and he is also a good partner himself.
Emotion and marriage management are mutually reinforcing. When you see someone else enjoying their happiness, you cannot see their private contributions. No one in the world can be lucky enough to be happy without doing anything. This is not winning the lottery! And happiness is not just about finding a good partner. If you don't give, how can you gain?
Many people always believe that happiness is an external desire, something the other person wants to give them, but in fact, if you don't have the ability to give yourself happiness and happiness, others will never be able to satisfy you. So I often say, before meeting a good partner, make yourself a good partner. The better you become, the better you deserve, right? Learn to be independent first. Whether you're single or with a partner, you can make yourself happy.
