When my wife and I were dating, she had just ended a relationship. I helped her out of the shadow of heartbreak, and she was very grateful to me. After several encounters with us, we rubbed out emotions. She is very beautiful, with her big eyes flickering and every glance and smile that catches my heart. After getting familiar with each other, we established our relationship and reached the age of marriage. Let it be, we got married. After marriage, she was very considerate to me, helping me with laundry and cooking, giving my family a feeling.
Our childhood was very happy, but after less than a year of marriage, our relationship changed. Her temper is always good and bad, and she is a bit stubborn, unable to listen to advice. Every time I work overtime and come home, she always looks indifferent. That day, when I came back at nine o'clock, she didn't show me any signs of embarrassment. When I asked her, she ignored me and became anxious. She scolded me in full face. I was already tired of working overtime, and letting her make such a fuss made me feel upset. I thanked her a few words.
She slammed the door angrily and left, and I was also angry at the time and didn't chase her out. She returned in the middle of the night, full of alcohol fumes. I asked her where she had gone, and with a persistent expression, she lay in bed untidy and didn't take a shower, turning around to carry me. A woman went out to drink heavily in the middle of the night, and the more I thought about it, the more angry I became. I pulled her up and asked questions, but her phone fell to the ground. I picked it up and looked at it, but I didn't read several WeChat messages. Once opened, it was all messages from her predecessor. From the news record, it can be seen that the person she met tonight was her predecessor.
I am her husband, and she feels aggrieved and runs to her ex to cry. I don't understand what she thinks. What makes me even more depressed is that it was clearly the man who dumped her at the beginning, but now she is in contact with the other person. What exactly is the meaning? I didn't ask any further as she was drunk and couldn't speak smoothly.
The next day, I was awakened by the doorbell early in the morning. I opened the door and saw a strange man without any opening remarks. When I entered, I scolded me and said that I was only a man who would vent my anger on women. I didn't earn much money and spent all day worrying about something. My wife was also woken up, and when I ran out and saw him, I cried. What was even more extreme was that the man comforted my wife in front of me... I was completely crazy. Our husband and wife had a quarrel, and he came to question me. If it weren't for his wife's affection for him, how could he have confidence.
Dignity was trampled on like this, and I spoke out in anger about my divorce. My wife stood by and cried, and the man pulled her out. I'm so angry that I want to blow my head off. It's too much. How can I make a living like this?
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
Hello. From your account, it is obvious that your wife cares a lot about her ex, and a woman always thinks about other men, which is obviously not a good phenomenon. In life, disputes over trivial matters should be the most common thing. She magnified the friction between husband and wife infinitely, and even ran to outsiders to express her grievances, indicating that she felt that her ex was a safe haven and could make her feel temporarily safe.
Marriage belongs to both of you. If you suspect that she and her ex have given you a green hat, don't jump to conclusions without confirming everything. Now you should figure out the source of the conflict and find a way to solve it. Although your wife's actions are not appropriate, as a husband, you should not be so impulsive. After all, in the future, it will be the two of you living together, and the ex will ultimately be an outsider. It is not enough to consider and communicate more from the other party's perspective, and it is not too late to consider divorce.