After reading this story, I understand how important the position of my husband is in the family

My mother is a woman in Jiangnan Water Village, slim and slim, which does not meet the aesthetic standards of northern rural areas. Two sister-in-law said in her mother-in-law's ear that she was not in good health, I am afraid she will not have a baby in the future.

My father was so angry that he scolded his two aunts: "I like her like that. A scholar should look like that. If she has big hands and feet, she can only work in the field."

My father was very famous in Shiliba Village at that time, so my grandmother's family felt that my mother's marriage to him was a great blessing, and it was all right to be an ox and a horse.

As a result, one day after my father drank too much, he said drunk in front of many people, "The most proud thing in my life is to marry such a educated and beautiful wife,

I wanted to marry her so much that she was older than my official. If she followed me alone, I could not upset her even if I lost my head. Except for my mother, if anyone let her feel aggrieved, he wouldn't have to speak in front of me. I don't know him. "

Everyone was stunned. Although my grandmother was granted a privilege, do you dare to use it? Do you think my father was drunk?

This is the first time that the rules have been established, and there will be less trouble in the future. Over the years, our family has very few conflicts.

As long as our family members are united, no one can talk to us. Even if we don't hear what we say, my father never allows outsiders to talk about our family.

He is a filial and disobedient person, and takes good care of my grandmother. But he will never take the words of the old man as a sacred edict. He said clearly: she is confused, you can't follow her.

My husband's position is too important. If he really wants to solve the problem, he can't solve it.

My father's reasonable requests to relatives are generally satisfied. He does not smoke or drink, lives frugally and supports his grandchildren in reading, but he never asks his wife and children to give up their lives to help others.

My aunt complained that one coat of my mother would be enough for her family to live for several months, but my father didn't think that mother should not buy this coat and give money to my aunt?

Our rural customs are very discriminating against women. Women and children can't eat at the table with men on formal occasions. They can only eat in the kitchen. But when my father took my mother home to visit relatives, he immediately asked my mother to sit at the table together.

When relatives from the countryside come to my house, my mother and I not only eat at the table, but also if it is my mother's turn to cook, she can't understand her apron and sit at the table. Nobody is allowed to move chopsticks. This is the minimum respect for the housewife.

This is the custom of our family. My aunt began to dislike it. My father said that you love to eat in the kitchen and go now. Nobody stopped you. Our family is very free. If you don't go, sit here and eat your meal honestly.

So I feel that mothers-in-law and sister-in-law are difficult to deal with and have many problems. They are all used to. For so many years, I haven't seen anyone dare to find trouble with my mother. They are all suppressed by my father.

A man said to his wife, "In front of outsiders and my family, you have to listen to me, do more work and give me face."

My father looks down on this kind of man. He said that he earned face by himself. What's face when he bullied his wife?

A man's face is earned by earning money and doing work. Anyway, you can do whatever you want. Don't go home to look for face.

My father fought all his life and earned enough face outside, but I never saw him go home to look for face. He obeyed my mother's words. In his words, as long as it did not affect work, what principles can be said?

We all know that someone said behind his back that he was afraid of himself. What is that? My father said that all the people who said such things were loafers, so he was willing to do so, and no one could care.

In fact, the atmosphere in their troops is sometimes not good. There are some cases of disdain for women, especially women's families, but no one dare to show a little disdain in front of my mother;

Because my father's attitude is there: not giving my wife face is not giving me face, so my mother has not been angry with others for so many years.

So, some women complain that their husband's friends and family don't respect themselves. That's because their husband doesn't respect you, so others dare to step on you.

If a man can understand how to love and respect his wife, the family atmosphere will be particularly good.

My father-in-law is not a bad person, but rather rude. My mother-in-law is cowardly and kind, and is not less angry with my father-in-law. My husband's character combines their two characteristics. He doesn't like the atmosphere of his home very much.

When he first came to our house, he was surprised that there was such a life in the world. The husband and wife could get along so well, and the life was peaceful but not flat. They should stay together whatever they did.

In fact, after all, I think there is a sentence quite suitable for my father: "ruthlessness is not necessarily a real hero, how can Lianzi not be a husband?"

My brother and I both complained that my mother's cooking was terrible, but my father scolded them bloody. He said, your mother is not your nanny, so it's good to cook it for you, and anyone who doesn't like it will cook it himself.

My father can't cook. He has never been in the kitchen in his life. He never complains. He can eat whatever my mother does.

My brother and I were not reconciled, so we had to make our own dishes, so our dishes were very good.

Our family began to use nannies very early, because my father can't cook and can't bear to let my mother work alone.

I can't hear the fallacy that "you can't even cook, and your clothes can't be washed clean. What's the use of marrying you?". In our family, there is only one answer to "what is a wife for?" That is: a wife is for love!

I cook better, but that doesn't mean I should cook. If I didn't cook, he would happily do it, or we would happily go out to find food together.

I heard that some men started to get angry when they saw their wives didn't cook when they came home. They said that they couldn't even eat a hot meal when they came home after a day of tiredness. I thought it was very strange. Who wasn't tired all day?

In the family relationship, a man only needs to work hard to maintain a little wife, then there will be a comfortable family environment, and a comfortable family environment is the real purpose of a good marriage.