Post Date December, 02 2023
My husband and I have been married for two and a half years. Both of us are 26 years old and have a boy who has just been 20 months old. "Previously, it was because he couldn't make money, but now it's because he has a tendency to violence, and now it's the fourth time he's been abusing me.".
"At the beginning, he and I were married in a flash marriage. We were introduced to each other and got married a month later.".
After marriage, my husband did some small business on his own, and he didn't earn much money every day. When he earned some money, he spent all his money on electronic products such as computers. He didn't pay at home at all, but just bought rice and vegetables for the family. At first, I worked with him, but after three months of marriage, I became pregnant and stayed at home. "Now my husband's business is not doing well because it's not good, and he's going to work for someone else.". "But working is also uncertain. How many days do you work today, and how many days do you work tomorrow? If you want to work, you can do it, or if you don't want to, you can't make money for your family. He doesn't care about his parents, and he's selfish.".
"Because of this, I inevitably had a quarrel with him. After some quarrels, he would start hitting me, and he would brutalize me in front of all his family.". I can't stand it anymore. I don't know what to do now? "I want to continue with him. The child is too young to divorce, and I don't know what to do to make him change?"?
reply:
1. In terms of marriage, usually, the ultimate result of flash marriage may lead to flash divorce. Even if not, it may be difficult for this marriage to achieve the desired happiness. For this reason, if you are not a man or woman with a super high IQ and have a very mature mentality, please do not choose flash marriage, otherwise, it is likely to bring bitter consequences to yourself and the other party.
2. From your description, the man you chose is really unbearable. He looks like a helpless fighter. He not only does what he does, but also lacks a minimum sense of responsibility. Don't cherish your parents and don't think about your wife and children. What's more frightening is that you always use violence to punch your other half. Facing such an unbearable man in front of you, you can only once again verify how bad your vision was in choosing someone. Is it your own responsibility to reap today's bitterness?
3. Personally, for a man who is prone to domestic violence and does not know how to repent, I do not approve of continuing to live with him, because the result of maintaining it is basically no happiness, and he will only create more fear and nightmares for you. Of course, you don't want a divorce to be your own business, but it's very difficult to expect him to make a change. A person's nature is such that even if you kneel down and beg for it, it's useless unless he suddenly realizes that he wants to change.
4. For you, how to make a choice at this time may be painful, but there is no way. Marriage is your own choice, and everyone has to bear the consequences of their choice. "Where to go and where to go, weigh and decide for yourself.". If you don't want to continue to let yourself and your child live in the shadow of a man's violence, please choose to stay away decisively when you have enough inner strength and self-supporting life.
