Post Date December, 03 2023
I am 32 years old this year and have divorced twice. It belongs to remarriage after divorce, and divorce after remarriage. Then, I don't want to look for it. Because I can't afford to hurt myself, my ex-husband not only cheated, but also always hit me with violence. Later, I fell in love with a married man, and now I am with the man with a family.
Because his wife can't have children, and he likes children very much, I gave birth to a child for my lover. It's just over a month now. My lover is 43 years old this year. His wife still doesn't know what happened between him and me. He just told his family that he had found a surrogate and test-tube baby outside to cheat his wife. I didn't want to destroy his family, but now his lover proposed to take the baby I gave birth to home for his wife. Then he said he would go out with me to do business and how to love me. Is what his lover said really credible? What should I do now?
I originally thought that since the child was born, I must bring it myself, but the thought of taking the child was particularly hard made me feel scared in my heart. I also thought about asking this man for a sum of money to raise my child, but I didn't want to do it, but now I don't have any good ideas. What should I do? Can I listen to my lover and give the child to his wife? Ask for directions.
reply:
1. The unhappiness of marriage needs to examine the problems existing in marriage itself, try to solve them if you can, and choose to give up if you can't solve them. It is not allowed to influence the choice of life direction in the future because of the misfortune of the previous marriage. It was your husband who cheated before, and you must have been scarred for it. Now, you also become a junior and start to hang out with a family man. The focus of your life deduces such absurd plot, which makes people sigh and sigh.
2. Don't want to destroy others' marriage. It sounds very nice. At most, it is just a third or second wife who is especially obedient to the rules. However, what you do means that you are ruthlessly involved in other people's marriage when you have feelings with the man with a family. You are pregnant for that man and have children. How can you cover up the ugly fact that you are the mistress of others with a understatement that you don't want to destroy. Because you have chosen a wrong path in life, you must pay the corresponding price for it.
3. Too many living facts tell us that there is no good end to being a mistress or mistress for others. So are you. In reality, your lover just regards you as his fertility tool. In his eyes, maybe the child you gave birth to is more important than you in his mind, and saying that you love you is just fooling you. It is better to listen less to what men really say. Even if you want to listen, use your mind and heart to judge.
4. Women, don't be lazy and vain at any time. Finally, they can only harm themselves. If you are afraid of trouble and are willing to live like a parasite, you can only become a plaything for others. Nobody will pay attention to you and pity you. Women, self-respect, self-love, self-reliance and self-reliance are the necessary conditions to win the dignity and happiness of life, otherwise, you will not live well.
5. About this innocent little life, because of your sudden rudeness, what kind of life fortune did you bring to this little guy? Have you considered it? Now that this is the case, you should know that the child is your own, while the man is someone else's. Which one do you care more about? You should have a number in mind, right? Why do you have the courage to feed other women with the meat that falls from your body and the baby that comes out of your belly? If you have no money to support, you should try to earn it by yourself. If you want to count on others, do you have a way out? In the end, you can only be led by the other side's nose.
Think about it. What do you want? Think about it before you do it!
