After divorce, I remarried my beloved wife, who is 7 years younger than me. When I returned from a business trip and saw my mother crying, I angrily mentioned divorce

I have had a marriage where my ex wife and I met at work and fell in love freely. When I met, I had nothing. The two of us fought against each other empty-handed, putting in all our efforts to have a better future. After several years of hard work, we have stabilized our pace in the big city. Each of us works in a big company, buys a wedding house, and settles down in the city we are working hard for. If calculated based on salary, my ex wife's salary is much higher than mine, but mine is also good.

Subsequently, we got married, and my ex-wife became pregnant. I took over my mother from my hometown to take care of her. After giving birth, the wife returned to work. My mother is busy at home alone, taking care of the children, cooking, and taking care of household chores. My ex-wife returned home, had dinner, and then went to bed to play with her phone, thinking about work. She never treats my mother unfairly when it comes to spending money. She gives her pocket money in the thousands.

After a long time, my mother feels very uncomfortable in her heart. She feels like a nanny, busy all day and not like a part of this family at all. I have communicated with my wife and asked her to take more care of my mother's feelings in her life, so that she can have a sense of home as an elderly person. My ex-wife listened to me and helped my mother with household chores, washing dishes and mopping the floor, but doing things hastily made my mother even more angry and felt that she was dealing with it. Talking in my ear all day long makes me very upset.

Since then, we have often had conflicts. My wife said that she has been tired from working all day and my mother has nothing to do at home. Why bother so much and make it clear that she has objections to her. What my ex-wife said is not unreasonable, and I am unable to refute it. However, with my mother on one side and my ex-wife on the other, I find it difficult to get caught in the middle.

Later on, my ex-wife often went on business trips, and I felt very disappointed. At this time, a girl came to the company. She was seven years younger and had an outgoing personality. She liked to stick to me and could give her a gift that was very satisfying. Next, we had a relationship that shouldn't have happened. I was drunk once, and I didn't take any safety measures. She got pregnant

At the same time, my ex-wife discovered my infidelity and tore my face in anger. She decisively signed for a divorce and led my child alone. I brought this seven year old girl back home. She was very attentive to my mother, pregnant and busy with household chores. My mother happily praises her diligence and is the daughter-in-law she wants. When she was three months old, she began to show off her belly. I accelerated my pace and held a wedding.

Her career ambition is not as ambitious as my ex-wife's. After giving birth, she is unwilling to go out to work, and the pressure of making money falls on me. This is really a mix of old and young. I dare not stop and work hard to make money. Business trips are also a common occurrence, and we have been married for a year. Recently, I returned from a business trip without saying hello to my family in advance because I happened to be on my wife's birthday and wanted to surprise her.

After entering the door, calling my wife's name, no one answered me. Mom came out holding the baby and saw me come back with a surprised look on her face. She quickly asked me to sit down and rest. I see my mother's face is particularly bad, with red circles around her eyes, as if she had cried before.

I comforted my mother if she was feeling unwell, perhaps due to the accumulation of grievances. She couldn't hold back for a moment and cried loudly, saying, My son, your daughter-in-law is not a fuel-efficient lamp. When you go on a business trip, she runs out and goes crazy. When she comes back, she's full of alcohol, and the child doesn't care. She chats videos with promiscuous men, and even threatens me not to tell you. Whenever things go wrong, I'll make fun of you. Mom is sorry for you. She didn't cherish a woman who was so good as her former daughter-in-law, but now it's also a retribution.

I called my wife and she was very noisy over there. I asked her where she was, and she solemnly said that she was shopping at the supermarket with her mother and children. I was angry and scolded her, and she obediently returned home. I held back my anger and proposed a divorce to get her out of this house. At that moment, I suddenly thought of my ex-wife. If I had communicated well and not betrayed my marriage, perhaps I would be very happy now. Can my ex-wife continue to have an affair with me now?

reply:

When you live a comfortable life, you will be picky about the other party, and even her small problems will be magnified infinitely by your side. Your mother feels like a nanny, busy at home. And your wife, who spends all day earning money outside, doesn't have that much energy, probably enough to live at home.

She gave your mother money, not to send her away, but to show her filial piety. According to your mother, if you send her away as a nanny, your wife can definitely hire a nanny. Why be so angry. You misunderstood her behavior and used infidelity to vent your dissatisfaction with your marriage. Now, you have suffered the consequences, but you are thinking about your ex wife's good intentions. This unethical approach is simply not feasible.

My personal suggestion is not to disturb your wife's life. You have remarried and your ex-wife has her own life. It is a gentleman's duty not to disturb each other. Now, it is crucial to handle your current marriage well. Analyze the shortcomings of your current marriage, communicate more, and have children now. Don't be so impulsive.